The story of the Shaykh from Azhar and the Prostitute
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Well, there you go, as was narrated by Shaykh Ali Tantawi [May Allah have mercy on him] in his memoir about Shaykh Ahmad Al-Zayaat [May Allah have mercy on him].
Shaykh Ali Tantawi said:
"The Shaykh (Ahmad Al-Zayaat) was a teacher, who did not know anything of this world except: The Azhar where he used to teach, the house he used to live in, and the road between them.
As years passed by, and he got older, his health started to deteriorate, and he needed to rest. So the doctor forced him to take some time of, and suggested that he goes somewhere away from his place of work and residence, and advised him to enjoy the quietness and calmness of the parks next to the Nile.
So one day, the Shaykh went out and stopped a carriage (as cars were not that available at the time). He told the driver: My son, take me to a nice place were I can enjoy the view and relax.
The driver of the carriage, however, was a wicked person, and took the Shaykh to a place in Egypt, which at the time had several prostitution houses.
After arriving he told the Shaykh: Here [we are].
The Shaykh said: O son, Magrib prayer is drawing near, where can I pray? Take me first to the Masjid.
The Driver [pointing to one of those houses] said: The Masjid is over there.
The door [of the place] was open, and the lady running that house was sitting, in the manner those like her usually sit.
When the Shaykh saw her, he lowered his gaze. He saw a seat, so he headed there and sat, waiting for the Call for prayer (Adhan).
[The woman in confusion, just] stared at him.
What brought that man here?
He doesn't look like any of her regular customers.
She kept thinking to herself, but did not dare ask him what he was doing here.
What kept her from asking was the shyness that remained in her heart, even as a prostitute. However, that shyness only appears in front of people of Piety.
He, on the other hand, kept doing Tasbeeh (saying Subhan Allah), whilst looking at his watch, until he heard the Adhan of Maghrib from far away.
He asked her: Where is the Moazin (Person who calls for prayers) here?
Why didn't he call for prayer when the time entered?
Are you his daughter?
She … kept silent.
He waited for a while, and then said: My daughter, Maghrib time is short, and it is not permissible to delay it, and I do not see anyone here, so if you have your Wudu (ablution) then pray behind me Jama'ah.
He gave the call for prayer, and without looking at her, as he was about to give the Iqamah, he noticed stillness behind him?!
He asked: What is wrong? Don't you have your Wudu?
All of a sudden, as if her Iman (Faith) woke up and she remembered the old days. The days when she was filled with purity, and was away from sin, she started to cry loudly, and threw herself at his feet.
The Shaykh surprised, did not know in what way he can calm her.
She then, started narrating her story.
He saw in her words great regret, and felt the truth in her repentance. He realized the sincerity in what she was saying, so he told her: Listen, my daughter, to what the Lord of all creation says: {Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the Mercy of Allah. Indeed Allah forgives all sins …"} (39:53)..
All sins, my daughter, all sins …
The door of repentance is open to every sinner and it is so wide that it can encompass them all no matter how heavy their load [of sins] is … even Kufr.
So whoever disbelieves in the all Mighty, after he was a believer, but repents before the hour of his death comes, and he was sincere in his repentance, and he renewed his Islam, Allah will accept him.
Allah, my dear daughter, is the most Generous of all. Did you ever hear of anyone generous shutting the door in the face of those who come seeking him?
Stand up and go wash yourself, and cover yourself. Go and clean your skin with water and your heart with repentance and regret. Approach your Lord, and I will wait for you.
But do not delay, so that we do not miss Maghrib prayer.
She did as he asked, and returned to him with a new dress and a new heart. She stood behind him and prayed. She felt and tasted the sweetness of that prayer, and felt that this prayer purified her heart.
When the prayer was over, he told her: Come with me, and try to cut every relation you have with this place and everyone in it. Try to erase the time you spent here from your memory.
Consistently ask Allah for his forgiveness, and increase in doing righteous deeds.
Verily, adultery is not as big a sin as Kufr, and Hind [bint 'Utbah – May Allah be pleased with her], who was a disbeliever and had animosity in her heart to the Prophet of Allah. After that she became from the righteous believers, and we started saying: Allah is well-pleased with her.
The Shaykh then took her to a house of righteous ladies, and then found her a righteous husband and advised him to take good care of her" 1/252.
[Original writer in Arabic forum said]: Notice [May Allah shower you with Mercy] the state of this woman, how she was and how she changed. It was nothing more than simple words from an old man that led her into changing her life upside down.
So if you only think how many people are just like this woman.
People who are drowning in filth, people who the dust from their sins gathered around their hearts shedding away its light.
These sins caused them to see the Truth as Falsehood and the Falsehood as Truth.
How much are they in need of one to take by their hands, and to clear the dust away from their hearts.
They do not need complicated educational and behavioral philosophical treatments, or theories in the manners of interaction and persuasion. Neither are they in need of complicated statements.
What they truly need is for someone to feel sorry for them and for their state … Someone to understand their situation and to hope for their guidance … Someone who would speak a word that would leave his heart, [and touch theirs]. A word which he seeks nothing from except the Face of Allah.
After this the light, that was for so long covered with sins, would emerge and their souls would return to its Fitrah, and would return to its harmony with the universe and to the true manner of life
Sunday, 30 May 2010
Wednesday, 26 May 2010
Hating Yourself for the Sake of Allah
Hating Yourself for the Sake of Allah
Ibn al-Qayyim said:"And hating yourself for the sake of Allah is from the characteristics of the truthful, and in a single second, it brings the slave close to Allah many times more than any action or deed would."Later in the same chapter of 'Ighathat al-Lahfan,' he related from al-Jariri:"I was told of a man from the Children of Isra'il who had a need that he wanted fulfilled by Allah. So, he engaged in constant worship and then asked Allah for his need. When he did not see that his need was fulfilled, he spent the night blaming himself, saying: "O self! What is wrong with you that is preventing your need from being fulfilled?" And he spent the night sad and holding himself to account, saying: "By Allah, the problem is not with my Lord. Rather, the problem is with myself," and he remained in such a state of holding himself responsible until his need was finally taken care of."
['Ighathat al-Lahfan'; 1/77]
Ibn al-Qayyim said:"And hating yourself for the sake of Allah is from the characteristics of the truthful, and in a single second, it brings the slave close to Allah many times more than any action or deed would."Later in the same chapter of 'Ighathat al-Lahfan,' he related from al-Jariri:"I was told of a man from the Children of Isra'il who had a need that he wanted fulfilled by Allah. So, he engaged in constant worship and then asked Allah for his need. When he did not see that his need was fulfilled, he spent the night blaming himself, saying: "O self! What is wrong with you that is preventing your need from being fulfilled?" And he spent the night sad and holding himself to account, saying: "By Allah, the problem is not with my Lord. Rather, the problem is with myself," and he remained in such a state of holding himself responsible until his need was finally taken care of."
['Ighathat al-Lahfan'; 1/77]
Verily, After Hardship Comes Ease
Verily, After Hardship Comes Ease
By Shaykh ‘Aaidh Al-Qarni
At a time in which the Muslims are beset with trials from every periphery, it is a time when Muslims should continue being Muslims, only better Muslims.
I would say to my dear brothers and sisters in Islam “don’t be sad”; if you are on the true religion – believing in One God and all the Messengers sent to mankind, then don’t be sad.
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala says in Qur’aan
“…Bear with patience whatever befalls you….” (31:17) and “Be not sad, surely Allaah is with us.” (9:40)
Our Prophet Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:
“Verily, if Allaah loves a people, He makes them go through trials. Whoever is satisfied, for him is contentment, and whoever is angry upon him is wrath.” [Tirmidhi]
Being sad is not encouraged in Islam
“So do not become weak, nor be sad…” (3:139)
“And grieve not over them, and be not distressed because of what they plot.” (16:127)
Sadness prevents one from action instead of compelling one towards it. The heart does not benefit through grief. The most beloved thing to the devil is to hinder the worshipper in the path of Allaah. The Muslim must repel sadness and fight in any way that is permissible in Islam.
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala is sufficient for us
“Allaah is sufficient for us, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. So they returned with Grace and Bounty from Allaah. No harm touched them; and they followed the good Pleasure of Allaah. And Allaah is the owner of Great Bounty.” (3:173-174)
“And put your trust in Allaah if you are believers indeed…” (5:23)
“O you who believe! Seek help in patience and the prayer…” (2:153)
By leaving your affairs to Allaah, by depending on Him, by trusting in His promise, by being pleased with His decree, by thinking favourably of Him, and by waiting patiently for His help, you reap some of the greater fruits of faith. When you incorporate these qualities, you will be at peace concerning the future, because you will depend on your Lord for everything. As a result, you will find care, help, protection and victory.
Pre-ordainment
“No calamity befalls on earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees – before We bring it into existence.” (57:22)
The pen has dried, and the pages have been lifted: all events shall come to pass have already been written. Whatever has befallen you was not meant to escape you, and whatever has escaped you was not meant to befall you: if this belief were to be firmly ingrained in your heart, then all hardships and difficulty would become ease and comfort.
The Prophet Sall Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said,
“Whoever Allaah wishes good for, He inflicts him (with hardship).” (Bukhaari)
For those who are afflicted with disaster, glad tidings await them: so remain patient and happy with your Lord.
“He cannot be questioned as to what He does, while they will be questioned.” (21:23)
Verily, with hardship, there is relief
“Verily, with hardship there is relief.” (94:6)
“Perhaps Allaah may bring victory or a decision according to His Will.” (5:52)
Prophet Ibraheem ‘alayhissalam did not feel its heat because of the help he received from Allaah.
“We (Allaah) said : O’ fire! Be you coolness and safety for Ibraheem.” (21:69)
The sea would not drown Prophet Musa ‘alayhissalaam because he uttered in confident, strong and truthful manner:
“Nay verily! With me is my Lord, He will guide me.” (26:62)
And the Prophet Muhammad Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said to ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbaas radiyallahu ‘anhu:
“..Be mindful of Allaah, you will find Him before you. Get to know Allaah in prosperity and He will know you in adversity… And know that victory comes with patience, relief with affliction, and ease with hardship.” [Tirmidhi]
Accept life as it is
If you read the Qur’aan you will see that all the Prophets ‘alayhimussalaam went through trials and tribulations. Life is a test so let us learn from the best examples of our Prophets.
“Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty, ailments and were shaken.” (2:214)
We should know that if we are pleased with our Lord, He will be pleased with us. And if you are pleased with your Lord no matter what the situation is, then you will find that you have earned your Lord’s pleasure. On the other hand, there are hypocrites whom Allaah rejects their deeds. They are displeased with what Allaah sends down and they hate seeking His pleasure; thus their deeds are performed in vain.
Your recompense is with Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala
When Allaah, the Exalted takes something away from you, He compensates it with something better, but only if you are patient and seek His reward.
Prophet Muhammad Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:
“Whoever loses a loved one from the people of this world and then seeks recompense with his Lord, will be compensated with Paradise.”
Those who are in this world and are close to Allaah will be raised in the highest of heaven:
“Peace be upon you, because you peresevered in patience! Excellent indeed is the final home!” (13:24)
Truly, the life of this world is short and its treasures are few. O’ afflicted ones, if you are patient you lose nothing; and though you may not perceive it, you are profiting.
Extract honey but do not break the hive
“Repel (the evil) with one which is better, then verily! He, between whom and you there was enmity (will become) as though he was a close friend.” (41:34)
“….and harm them not. And put your trust in Allaah.” (33:48)
Prophet Muhammad Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said,
“Verily, Allaah ordered me to keep relations with those that cut off, forgive the ones who does an injustice with me, and to give to those who withhold from me.”
“Those who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah loves the good-doers.” (3:134)
Remembrance of Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts find rest.” (13:28)
“Therefore remember Me and I will remember you…” (2:152)
We should not be surprised when we hear that people who remember Allah are at peace. What is truly surprising is how the negligent and unmindful survive without remembering Him.
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala says in the Qur’aan,
“They are dead, lifeless and they know not when they will be raised up.” (16:21)
Truly, He is near when supplicated: He hears when he is called and He answers when He is invoked, so humble yourself before Him and ask of Him sincerely. Repeat His beautiful names, and mention Him alone as worthy of worship. Mention His praises, supplicate to Him: you will find then – by the will of Allaah – happiness, peace and illumination.
“So Allaah gave them the reward of this world and the excellent reward of the Hereafter.” (3:148)
Loving Allaah, knowing Him, remembering Him, seeking peace in Him, singling Him out for complete love, fear, hope and dependence – these qualities when combined in a person, constitute a sort of heaven on earth. These are qualities that bring peace to those who love Allah, a sort of peace that has no comparison in this world.
It is important that a special relationship exists in the heart between the slave and his Lord, a relationship that allows the slave to feel so close to his Lord that he requires no other. Thus, he finds company when he is alone, and he tastes the sweetness of remembering Him and supplicating to Him. Allaah’s slave will continually face hardship and difficulty until he dies, but if he has a special relationship with his Lord, all of the hardships of life will become easy for him.
The prayer….the prayer – we must return to our masajid
“O’ you who believe! Seek help in patience and the Prayer.” (2:153)
By earnestly performing the five daily prayers, we achieve the greatest of blessings: cleared off our sins and increase in rank with our Lord. Prayer is a potent remedy for our sickness, for it instills our faith in our souls.
As for those that keep away from the mosque and away from prayer, for them is unhappiness, wretchedness and an embittered life.
“For them is destruction and Allaah will make their deeds vain.” (47:8)
Take a moment to reflect
O whose mind has wandered in grief, O’ you whose eyes are loaded with tears; relax and know that your Creator aids, and that His mercy will bring you peace. And know that your reward is secure with He Who doesn’t disappoint the one who seeks to please Him. Be at peace, for after poverty comes joyous meeting, and after sleeplessness comes sound rest. O you who are oppressed in the lands, who suffer from hunger, pain, sickness and poverty, rejoice in the knowledge that you will soon be satisfied with food and that you will be happy and in good health.
Let us make these supplications, their purpose being to eliminate hardship, anxiety and grief:
“There is no worthy of worship except Allaah, the Ever Forbearing, the Most Great. There is none worthy of worship except Allaah, the Lord of the Tremendous Throne. There is none worthy of worship One Who sustains and protects all that exists, there is none worthy of worship except You, and by Your Mercy do we seek Your aid.”
“So be patient, with a good patience…” (70:5).
____________ _________ _________ _________ ____
References:
The Noble Qur’aan (Muhsin Khan/Muhammad Hilali Translation)
Don’t Be Sad – Shaykh ‘Aaidh Al-Qarni
فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
فَإِذَا فَرَغْتَ فَانصَبْ
وَإِلَى رَبِّكَ فَارْغَبْ
“Verily, along with every hardship is relief, verily, along with hardship is relief. So when you have finished (your occupation), devote yourself for Allaah’s worship. And to your Lord (Alone) turn (all your) intentions and hopes.” (94:5-8).
By Shaykh ‘Aaidh Al-Qarni
At a time in which the Muslims are beset with trials from every periphery, it is a time when Muslims should continue being Muslims, only better Muslims.
I would say to my dear brothers and sisters in Islam “don’t be sad”; if you are on the true religion – believing in One God and all the Messengers sent to mankind, then don’t be sad.
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala says in Qur’aan
“…Bear with patience whatever befalls you….” (31:17) and “Be not sad, surely Allaah is with us.” (9:40)
Our Prophet Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:
“Verily, if Allaah loves a people, He makes them go through trials. Whoever is satisfied, for him is contentment, and whoever is angry upon him is wrath.” [Tirmidhi]
Being sad is not encouraged in Islam
“So do not become weak, nor be sad…” (3:139)
“And grieve not over them, and be not distressed because of what they plot.” (16:127)
Sadness prevents one from action instead of compelling one towards it. The heart does not benefit through grief. The most beloved thing to the devil is to hinder the worshipper in the path of Allaah. The Muslim must repel sadness and fight in any way that is permissible in Islam.
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala is sufficient for us
“Allaah is sufficient for us, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. So they returned with Grace and Bounty from Allaah. No harm touched them; and they followed the good Pleasure of Allaah. And Allaah is the owner of Great Bounty.” (3:173-174)
“And put your trust in Allaah if you are believers indeed…” (5:23)
“O you who believe! Seek help in patience and the prayer…” (2:153)
By leaving your affairs to Allaah, by depending on Him, by trusting in His promise, by being pleased with His decree, by thinking favourably of Him, and by waiting patiently for His help, you reap some of the greater fruits of faith. When you incorporate these qualities, you will be at peace concerning the future, because you will depend on your Lord for everything. As a result, you will find care, help, protection and victory.
Pre-ordainment
“No calamity befalls on earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees – before We bring it into existence.” (57:22)
The pen has dried, and the pages have been lifted: all events shall come to pass have already been written. Whatever has befallen you was not meant to escape you, and whatever has escaped you was not meant to befall you: if this belief were to be firmly ingrained in your heart, then all hardships and difficulty would become ease and comfort.
The Prophet Sall Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said,
“Whoever Allaah wishes good for, He inflicts him (with hardship).” (Bukhaari)
For those who are afflicted with disaster, glad tidings await them: so remain patient and happy with your Lord.
“He cannot be questioned as to what He does, while they will be questioned.” (21:23)
Verily, with hardship, there is relief
“Verily, with hardship there is relief.” (94:6)
“Perhaps Allaah may bring victory or a decision according to His Will.” (5:52)
Prophet Ibraheem ‘alayhissalam did not feel its heat because of the help he received from Allaah.
“We (Allaah) said : O’ fire! Be you coolness and safety for Ibraheem.” (21:69)
The sea would not drown Prophet Musa ‘alayhissalaam because he uttered in confident, strong and truthful manner:
“Nay verily! With me is my Lord, He will guide me.” (26:62)
And the Prophet Muhammad Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said to ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbaas radiyallahu ‘anhu:
“..Be mindful of Allaah, you will find Him before you. Get to know Allaah in prosperity and He will know you in adversity… And know that victory comes with patience, relief with affliction, and ease with hardship.” [Tirmidhi]
Accept life as it is
If you read the Qur’aan you will see that all the Prophets ‘alayhimussalaam went through trials and tribulations. Life is a test so let us learn from the best examples of our Prophets.
“Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty, ailments and were shaken.” (2:214)
We should know that if we are pleased with our Lord, He will be pleased with us. And if you are pleased with your Lord no matter what the situation is, then you will find that you have earned your Lord’s pleasure. On the other hand, there are hypocrites whom Allaah rejects their deeds. They are displeased with what Allaah sends down and they hate seeking His pleasure; thus their deeds are performed in vain.
Your recompense is with Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala
When Allaah, the Exalted takes something away from you, He compensates it with something better, but only if you are patient and seek His reward.
Prophet Muhammad Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:
“Whoever loses a loved one from the people of this world and then seeks recompense with his Lord, will be compensated with Paradise.”
Those who are in this world and are close to Allaah will be raised in the highest of heaven:
“Peace be upon you, because you peresevered in patience! Excellent indeed is the final home!” (13:24)
Truly, the life of this world is short and its treasures are few. O’ afflicted ones, if you are patient you lose nothing; and though you may not perceive it, you are profiting.
Extract honey but do not break the hive
“Repel (the evil) with one which is better, then verily! He, between whom and you there was enmity (will become) as though he was a close friend.” (41:34)
“….and harm them not. And put your trust in Allaah.” (33:48)
Prophet Muhammad Sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said,
“Verily, Allaah ordered me to keep relations with those that cut off, forgive the ones who does an injustice with me, and to give to those who withhold from me.”
“Those who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah loves the good-doers.” (3:134)
Remembrance of Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts find rest.” (13:28)
“Therefore remember Me and I will remember you…” (2:152)
We should not be surprised when we hear that people who remember Allah are at peace. What is truly surprising is how the negligent and unmindful survive without remembering Him.
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala says in the Qur’aan,
“They are dead, lifeless and they know not when they will be raised up.” (16:21)
Truly, He is near when supplicated: He hears when he is called and He answers when He is invoked, so humble yourself before Him and ask of Him sincerely. Repeat His beautiful names, and mention Him alone as worthy of worship. Mention His praises, supplicate to Him: you will find then – by the will of Allaah – happiness, peace and illumination.
“So Allaah gave them the reward of this world and the excellent reward of the Hereafter.” (3:148)
Loving Allaah, knowing Him, remembering Him, seeking peace in Him, singling Him out for complete love, fear, hope and dependence – these qualities when combined in a person, constitute a sort of heaven on earth. These are qualities that bring peace to those who love Allah, a sort of peace that has no comparison in this world.
It is important that a special relationship exists in the heart between the slave and his Lord, a relationship that allows the slave to feel so close to his Lord that he requires no other. Thus, he finds company when he is alone, and he tastes the sweetness of remembering Him and supplicating to Him. Allaah’s slave will continually face hardship and difficulty until he dies, but if he has a special relationship with his Lord, all of the hardships of life will become easy for him.
The prayer….the prayer – we must return to our masajid
“O’ you who believe! Seek help in patience and the Prayer.” (2:153)
By earnestly performing the five daily prayers, we achieve the greatest of blessings: cleared off our sins and increase in rank with our Lord. Prayer is a potent remedy for our sickness, for it instills our faith in our souls.
As for those that keep away from the mosque and away from prayer, for them is unhappiness, wretchedness and an embittered life.
“For them is destruction and Allaah will make their deeds vain.” (47:8)
Take a moment to reflect
O whose mind has wandered in grief, O’ you whose eyes are loaded with tears; relax and know that your Creator aids, and that His mercy will bring you peace. And know that your reward is secure with He Who doesn’t disappoint the one who seeks to please Him. Be at peace, for after poverty comes joyous meeting, and after sleeplessness comes sound rest. O you who are oppressed in the lands, who suffer from hunger, pain, sickness and poverty, rejoice in the knowledge that you will soon be satisfied with food and that you will be happy and in good health.
Let us make these supplications, their purpose being to eliminate hardship, anxiety and grief:
“There is no worthy of worship except Allaah, the Ever Forbearing, the Most Great. There is none worthy of worship except Allaah, the Lord of the Tremendous Throne. There is none worthy of worship One Who sustains and protects all that exists, there is none worthy of worship except You, and by Your Mercy do we seek Your aid.”
“So be patient, with a good patience…” (70:5).
____________ _________ _________ _________ ____
References:
The Noble Qur’aan (Muhsin Khan/Muhammad Hilali Translation)
Don’t Be Sad – Shaykh ‘Aaidh Al-Qarni
فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
فَإِذَا فَرَغْتَ فَانصَبْ
وَإِلَى رَبِّكَ فَارْغَبْ
“Verily, along with every hardship is relief, verily, along with hardship is relief. So when you have finished (your occupation), devote yourself for Allaah’s worship. And to your Lord (Alone) turn (all your) intentions and hopes.” (94:5-8).
Monday, 24 May 2010
Sorry. I am different!
From sister Shams Muslimah.....
I admit that I am different
I boycott KFC, Mc Donald and other product that support Zionist
I don't listen to music and I don't watch movies
I don't hang around and I don't gossip about others
I don't wear perfume neither striking colour cloth
I don't follow fashion and I don't know who is the latest American Idol
I don't have I-Phone but I love to have one
I don't have BMW but it doesn't mean I ride camels
I wear hijab :) and I proud of it
Hey but I wash my hair and keep it always clean
I wear niqab not to hide my pimples or scar
But I fall in love to be a stranger when others seeking for attention
I wear black not because I hate pink
But I wanted to help others to lower their gaze
I recite qur'an and I have no time reading magazine
But I bet that I can answer all your Question about science and math! =) History as well
I have no boyfriend neither looking for one
Because I wanna be the only one for the man that Allah chosed for me
Don't pity me of who I am
Because I pity those who pity me =(
You can stare at me, you can talk bad about me
You can call me an alien, or a ninja and that makes me more happy ;)
I Love Allah
And since then, I turned this way
All I want is to be HIS beloved <3 and that's the reason why I am this way
I fear Allah and HE is my greatest strength
I am sure Allah is with one whom LOVES HIM
And InshaAllah, Allah with me!
Sunday, 23 May 2010
There is Right and Wrong in Everything
There is Right and Wrong in Everything
When Allah created man, He established an order and asystem for each organ, and He ordained prohibitions for each organ, granted a blessing for fulfilling each of them, and specified a kind of pleasure and benefit that results from each one. If the servant acts while using each organ for the sake of Allah and avoids the prohibitions, he would be praising Allah for granting him the blessings of each organ and would complete the potential benefit and pleasure from each one. But if he neglects the orders of Allah and His prohibitions, Allah will not allow him to benefit from any of them and moreover, He will make it a cause of pain and harm.Each organ of the body has the duty to worship Allah at all times, which will bring one closer to Him. If he keeps himself busy with worship, he will be close to Allah, but if he is busy with his desires, seeking relief, or being idle, he will fail. The servant is constantly fluctuating between being close to Allah and being far from Him. Allah, the Exalted says,"To any of you that chooses to go forward (by working righteous deeds), or to remain behind (by committing sins)." (AI-Muddathir, 74:37)
Al Fawaid p 319 ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah
When Allah created man, He established an order and asystem for each organ, and He ordained prohibitions for each organ, granted a blessing for fulfilling each of them, and specified a kind of pleasure and benefit that results from each one. If the servant acts while using each organ for the sake of Allah and avoids the prohibitions, he would be praising Allah for granting him the blessings of each organ and would complete the potential benefit and pleasure from each one. But if he neglects the orders of Allah and His prohibitions, Allah will not allow him to benefit from any of them and moreover, He will make it a cause of pain and harm.Each organ of the body has the duty to worship Allah at all times, which will bring one closer to Him. If he keeps himself busy with worship, he will be close to Allah, but if he is busy with his desires, seeking relief, or being idle, he will fail. The servant is constantly fluctuating between being close to Allah and being far from Him. Allah, the Exalted says,"To any of you that chooses to go forward (by working righteous deeds), or to remain behind (by committing sins)." (AI-Muddathir, 74:37)
Al Fawaid p 319 ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah
* A womans brain is tied to her tongue!!*
* A womans brain is tied to her tongue!!*
نحن نؤمن أن التوفيق بيد الله سبحانه وحدة وأن كل شيء مقدر ومكتوب .. ولكن هناك
أسباب يجب الأخذ بها مع التوكل على الله
We believe that success is in the hands of Allah SWT and that everything has
been written and destined.. but there are actions that we must be doing
whilst having Tawakul on Allah SWT
وهنا أذكر لكم ما قالته عجوز وهي سيدة حكيمة يحبها زوجها كثيراً حتى أنه كان
يحلو له أن ينشد لها أبيات الحب والغرام وكلما تقدماً في السن ازداد حبهما
وسعادتهما .. وعندما سألت تلك المرأة عن سر سعادتها الدائمة
And I shall mention to you what an old lady, that was very wise and greatly
loved by her husband to a point where he loved to sing love poetry to her
and as they grew old their love and happiness grew with them, said when she
was asked about the secret to her enduring happiness.
قالت : الحصول على السعادة الزوجية بيد المرأة , فالمرأة تستطيع أن تجعل من
بيتها جنة وارفة الظلال أو جهنم مستعرة النيران .>
She Said: Attaining married life happiness is in the hands of the woman, for
she can make her house a living heaven or turn it into burning hell.
لا تقولي المال .. فكثير من النساء الغنيات تعيسات وهرب منهن أزواجهن
Dont say money for alot of rich women are miserable and have been deserted
by their husbands.
ولا تقولي الأولاد .. فهناك من النساء من أنجبن 10 صبيان وزوجها يهينها ولا
يحبها ويمكن أن يطلقها
And dont say children for there are alot of women with 10 boys, have
husbands insulting them, not loving them and will probably divorce them.
ولا تقولي طباخة .. لأن الكثير منهن ماهرات في الطبخ , فالواحدة منهن تطبخ طوال
النهار ومع ذلك تشكو سوء معاملة زوجها وقلة احترامه لها
And dont say cooking because alot of them are experts at cooking, the one of
them cooks all day and yet complains about the maltreatment of and lack of
respect by her husband.
* إذا ما هو السر ؟؟؟
So what is the secret?
* ماذا كنت تعملين عند حدوث المشاكل مع زوجك ؟؟؟
What did you do when problems ocured with your husband?
قالت : عندما يغضب ويثور زوجي – وقد كان عصبياً – كنت ألجأ إلى الصمت المطبق
بكل احترام .. إياك والصمت المصاحب لنظرة سخرية ولو بالعين لأن الرجل ذكي و
يفهمها
She said: When my husband gets angry and is in rage I used to resort to
respectful silence, beware of silence whilst ridiculing him with your look
for men are smart and get it.
* لم لا تخرجي من الغرفة ؟؟
Why dont you leave the room?
قالت : إياك أن تخرجي من الغرفة .. قد يظن أنك تهربين منه ولا تريدين سماعه ,
عليك بالصمت وموافقته على ما يقول . كنت انتظره حتى يهدأ ثم بعد ذلك أقول له
وبصوتٍ خافت : هل انتهيت؟ ثم أخرج لأنه سيتعب وبحاجة للراحة بعد الكلام والصراخ
.. أخرج من الغرفة لأكمل أعمالي المنزلية وشؤون أولادي وأحاول أن لا أتذكر غضبه
وحربه لي .. وسيظل هو بمفرده وقد أنهكته الحرب التي شنها علي
She said: Never leave the room, he will think you are running away and dont
want to listen to him, you must keep silent and agreeing to what he says. I
would wait for him until he cools down and then I would tell him in a gentle
voice: Are you done? then I leave because he will get tired and needs to
rest after the rage and shouting, I leave the room to complete my housework
and my children chores and I try not to remember his anger and assault on
me, he will remain by himself tired from the rage he has given me.
* ماذا تفعلين هل تلجئين إلى أسلوب المقاطعة فلا تكلمينه لمدة أيام أو أسبوع ؟
What do you then do, do you give him the silent treatment for a few days or
a week?
قالت : لا .. إياك وإتباع أسلوب المقاطعة .. لأنها عادة سيئة وهي سلاح ذو حدين
عندما تقاطعين زوجك أسبوعاً قد يكون ذلك صعباً عليه في البداية ويحاول أن يكلمك
ولكن مع الأيام سوف يتعود على ذلك وإن قاطعته أسبوع قاطعك أسبوعين.
She said: No, never give the silent treatment, its a bad habbit and is a
double bladed sword, when you boycott him for a week it would be difficult
on him in the beginning and he will try to speak to you but with time he
will get used to it so that if you boycott him for a week he will boycott
you for two.
عليك أن تعوديه على أنك الهواء الذي يستنشقه والماء الذي يشربه ولا يستغني عنه
.. كوني كالهواء الرقيق وإياك والريح الشديدة
You have to make him used to the fact that you are the air he breathes, the
water which he drinks and cant live without, be like a gentle breeze and
never like a strong wind.
* إذاً ماذا تفعلين بعد ذلك ؟؟
So what do you do afterwards?
بعد ساعتين أو أكثر .. أضع له كوباً من العصير أو فنجاناً من القهوة وأقول له
تفضل أشرب , لأنه فعلاً محتاج إليه وأكلمه بشكل عادي ... سيقوم بسؤالي هل أنتِ
غاضبة ؟؟ فأقول لا
After two hours or more, I give him a glass of juice or a cup of coffee and
tell him please drink, for he is really in need for it and I talk to him
normaly, he will ask me: are you angry? and I say No.
فيبدأ بالاعتذار عن كلامه القاسي ويسمعني الكلام الجميل
He starts to apologize for his harsh talk and starts sweet talking me.
* وهل تصدقين اعتذاره وكلامه الجميل؟؟
And you believe his apology and sweet talk?
طبعاً ... لأني أثق بنفسي ولست غبية ...!!!
Ofcourse, because I trust myself and because I am not stupid.
هل تريدين مني تصديق كلامه وهو غاضب وتكذيبه وهو هادئ ؟؟؟
You want me to believe his talk whilst he is in rage and disbelieve it
whilst he is calm?
إن الإسلام لا يقر طلاق الغاضب ... وهو طلاق!! فكيف ما حصل معي أنا؟؟؟
Islam has not approved divorce whilst in rage , and thats divorce! so what
about what happened to me?
* فقيل لها ... و كرامتك ؟؟
She was told: What about your dignity?
قالت : أي كرامة ؟
She said: What dignity?
كرامتك ألا تصدقي أي كلمة جارحة من إنسان غاضب
Your dignity is when you dont believe a harsh word from an angry person.
و أن تصدقي كلامه عندما يكون هادئاً
And to believe his talk when he is calm.
أسامحه فوراً لأني قد نسيت كل الشتائم وأدركت أهمية
.سماع الكلام المفيد
I forgive him immediately because I have forgotten all the foul language and
realized the importance of hearing beneficial talk
وباختصار ومما سبق يمكن أن أقول :
سر السعادة الزوجية عقل المرأة ومربط تلك السعادة لسانها
And to summarize the above I can say: The secret to a happy marriage is the
woman's brain and that happiness's knot is her tongue.
http://thisdunyadis tracts.multiply. com/journal/ item/19
* A womans brain is tied to her tongue!!*
نحن نؤمن أن التوفيق بيد الله سبحانه وحدة وأن كل شيء مقدر ومكتوب .. ولكن هناك
أسباب يجب الأخذ بها مع التوكل على الله
We believe that success is in the hands of Allah SWT and that everything has
been written and destined.. but there are actions that we must be doing
whilst having Tawakul on Allah SWT
وهنا أذكر لكم ما قالته عجوز وهي سيدة حكيمة يحبها زوجها كثيراً حتى أنه كان
يحلو له أن ينشد لها أبيات الحب والغرام وكلما تقدماً في السن ازداد حبهما
وسعادتهما .. وعندما سألت تلك المرأة عن سر سعادتها الدائمة
And I shall mention to you what an old lady, that was very wise and greatly
loved by her husband to a point where he loved to sing love poetry to her
and as they grew old their love and happiness grew with them, said when she
was asked about the secret to her enduring happiness.
قالت : الحصول على السعادة الزوجية بيد المرأة , فالمرأة تستطيع أن تجعل من
بيتها جنة وارفة الظلال أو جهنم مستعرة النيران .>
She Said: Attaining married life happiness is in the hands of the woman, for
she can make her house a living heaven or turn it into burning hell.
لا تقولي المال .. فكثير من النساء الغنيات تعيسات وهرب منهن أزواجهن
Dont say money for alot of rich women are miserable and have been deserted
by their husbands.
ولا تقولي الأولاد .. فهناك من النساء من أنجبن 10 صبيان وزوجها يهينها ولا
يحبها ويمكن أن يطلقها
And dont say children for there are alot of women with 10 boys, have
husbands insulting them, not loving them and will probably divorce them.
ولا تقولي طباخة .. لأن الكثير منهن ماهرات في الطبخ , فالواحدة منهن تطبخ طوال
النهار ومع ذلك تشكو سوء معاملة زوجها وقلة احترامه لها
And dont say cooking because alot of them are experts at cooking, the one of
them cooks all day and yet complains about the maltreatment of and lack of
respect by her husband.
* إذا ما هو السر ؟؟؟
So what is the secret?
* ماذا كنت تعملين عند حدوث المشاكل مع زوجك ؟؟؟
What did you do when problems ocured with your husband?
قالت : عندما يغضب ويثور زوجي – وقد كان عصبياً – كنت ألجأ إلى الصمت المطبق
بكل احترام .. إياك والصمت المصاحب لنظرة سخرية ولو بالعين لأن الرجل ذكي و
يفهمها
She said: When my husband gets angry and is in rage I used to resort to
respectful silence, beware of silence whilst ridiculing him with your look
for men are smart and get it.
* لم لا تخرجي من الغرفة ؟؟
Why dont you leave the room?
قالت : إياك أن تخرجي من الغرفة .. قد يظن أنك تهربين منه ولا تريدين سماعه ,
عليك بالصمت وموافقته على ما يقول . كنت انتظره حتى يهدأ ثم بعد ذلك أقول له
وبصوتٍ خافت : هل انتهيت؟ ثم أخرج لأنه سيتعب وبحاجة للراحة بعد الكلام والصراخ
.. أخرج من الغرفة لأكمل أعمالي المنزلية وشؤون أولادي وأحاول أن لا أتذكر غضبه
وحربه لي .. وسيظل هو بمفرده وقد أنهكته الحرب التي شنها علي
She said: Never leave the room, he will think you are running away and dont
want to listen to him, you must keep silent and agreeing to what he says. I
would wait for him until he cools down and then I would tell him in a gentle
voice: Are you done? then I leave because he will get tired and needs to
rest after the rage and shouting, I leave the room to complete my housework
and my children chores and I try not to remember his anger and assault on
me, he will remain by himself tired from the rage he has given me.
* ماذا تفعلين هل تلجئين إلى أسلوب المقاطعة فلا تكلمينه لمدة أيام أو أسبوع ؟
What do you then do, do you give him the silent treatment for a few days or
a week?
قالت : لا .. إياك وإتباع أسلوب المقاطعة .. لأنها عادة سيئة وهي سلاح ذو حدين
عندما تقاطعين زوجك أسبوعاً قد يكون ذلك صعباً عليه في البداية ويحاول أن يكلمك
ولكن مع الأيام سوف يتعود على ذلك وإن قاطعته أسبوع قاطعك أسبوعين.
She said: No, never give the silent treatment, its a bad habbit and is a
double bladed sword, when you boycott him for a week it would be difficult
on him in the beginning and he will try to speak to you but with time he
will get used to it so that if you boycott him for a week he will boycott
you for two.
عليك أن تعوديه على أنك الهواء الذي يستنشقه والماء الذي يشربه ولا يستغني عنه
.. كوني كالهواء الرقيق وإياك والريح الشديدة
You have to make him used to the fact that you are the air he breathes, the
water which he drinks and cant live without, be like a gentle breeze and
never like a strong wind.
* إذاً ماذا تفعلين بعد ذلك ؟؟
So what do you do afterwards?
بعد ساعتين أو أكثر .. أضع له كوباً من العصير أو فنجاناً من القهوة وأقول له
تفضل أشرب , لأنه فعلاً محتاج إليه وأكلمه بشكل عادي ... سيقوم بسؤالي هل أنتِ
غاضبة ؟؟ فأقول لا
After two hours or more, I give him a glass of juice or a cup of coffee and
tell him please drink, for he is really in need for it and I talk to him
normaly, he will ask me: are you angry? and I say No.
فيبدأ بالاعتذار عن كلامه القاسي ويسمعني الكلام الجميل
He starts to apologize for his harsh talk and starts sweet talking me.
* وهل تصدقين اعتذاره وكلامه الجميل؟؟
And you believe his apology and sweet talk?
طبعاً ... لأني أثق بنفسي ولست غبية ...!!!
Ofcourse, because I trust myself and because I am not stupid.
هل تريدين مني تصديق كلامه وهو غاضب وتكذيبه وهو هادئ ؟؟؟
You want me to believe his talk whilst he is in rage and disbelieve it
whilst he is calm?
إن الإسلام لا يقر طلاق الغاضب ... وهو طلاق!! فكيف ما حصل معي أنا؟؟؟
Islam has not approved divorce whilst in rage , and thats divorce! so what
about what happened to me?
* فقيل لها ... و كرامتك ؟؟
She was told: What about your dignity?
قالت : أي كرامة ؟
She said: What dignity?
كرامتك ألا تصدقي أي كلمة جارحة من إنسان غاضب
Your dignity is when you dont believe a harsh word from an angry person.
و أن تصدقي كلامه عندما يكون هادئاً
And to believe his talk when he is calm.
أسامحه فوراً لأني قد نسيت كل الشتائم وأدركت أهمية
.سماع الكلام المفيد
I forgive him immediately because I have forgotten all the foul language and
realized the importance of hearing beneficial talk
وباختصار ومما سبق يمكن أن أقول :
سر السعادة الزوجية عقل المرأة ومربط تلك السعادة لسانها
And to summarize the above I can say: The secret to a happy marriage is the
woman's brain and that happiness's knot is her tongue.
http://thisdunyadis tracts.multiply. com/journal/ item/19
نحن نؤمن أن التوفيق بيد الله سبحانه وحدة وأن كل شيء مقدر ومكتوب .. ولكن هناك
أسباب يجب الأخذ بها مع التوكل على الله
We believe that success is in the hands of Allah SWT and that everything has
been written and destined.. but there are actions that we must be doing
whilst having Tawakul on Allah SWT
وهنا أذكر لكم ما قالته عجوز وهي سيدة حكيمة يحبها زوجها كثيراً حتى أنه كان
يحلو له أن ينشد لها أبيات الحب والغرام وكلما تقدماً في السن ازداد حبهما
وسعادتهما .. وعندما سألت تلك المرأة عن سر سعادتها الدائمة
And I shall mention to you what an old lady, that was very wise and greatly
loved by her husband to a point where he loved to sing love poetry to her
and as they grew old their love and happiness grew with them, said when she
was asked about the secret to her enduring happiness.
قالت : الحصول على السعادة الزوجية بيد المرأة , فالمرأة تستطيع أن تجعل من
بيتها جنة وارفة الظلال أو جهنم مستعرة النيران .>
She Said: Attaining married life happiness is in the hands of the woman, for
she can make her house a living heaven or turn it into burning hell.
لا تقولي المال .. فكثير من النساء الغنيات تعيسات وهرب منهن أزواجهن
Dont say money for alot of rich women are miserable and have been deserted
by their husbands.
ولا تقولي الأولاد .. فهناك من النساء من أنجبن 10 صبيان وزوجها يهينها ولا
يحبها ويمكن أن يطلقها
And dont say children for there are alot of women with 10 boys, have
husbands insulting them, not loving them and will probably divorce them.
ولا تقولي طباخة .. لأن الكثير منهن ماهرات في الطبخ , فالواحدة منهن تطبخ طوال
النهار ومع ذلك تشكو سوء معاملة زوجها وقلة احترامه لها
And dont say cooking because alot of them are experts at cooking, the one of
them cooks all day and yet complains about the maltreatment of and lack of
respect by her husband.
* إذا ما هو السر ؟؟؟
So what is the secret?
* ماذا كنت تعملين عند حدوث المشاكل مع زوجك ؟؟؟
What did you do when problems ocured with your husband?
قالت : عندما يغضب ويثور زوجي – وقد كان عصبياً – كنت ألجأ إلى الصمت المطبق
بكل احترام .. إياك والصمت المصاحب لنظرة سخرية ولو بالعين لأن الرجل ذكي و
يفهمها
She said: When my husband gets angry and is in rage I used to resort to
respectful silence, beware of silence whilst ridiculing him with your look
for men are smart and get it.
* لم لا تخرجي من الغرفة ؟؟
Why dont you leave the room?
قالت : إياك أن تخرجي من الغرفة .. قد يظن أنك تهربين منه ولا تريدين سماعه ,
عليك بالصمت وموافقته على ما يقول . كنت انتظره حتى يهدأ ثم بعد ذلك أقول له
وبصوتٍ خافت : هل انتهيت؟ ثم أخرج لأنه سيتعب وبحاجة للراحة بعد الكلام والصراخ
.. أخرج من الغرفة لأكمل أعمالي المنزلية وشؤون أولادي وأحاول أن لا أتذكر غضبه
وحربه لي .. وسيظل هو بمفرده وقد أنهكته الحرب التي شنها علي
She said: Never leave the room, he will think you are running away and dont
want to listen to him, you must keep silent and agreeing to what he says. I
would wait for him until he cools down and then I would tell him in a gentle
voice: Are you done? then I leave because he will get tired and needs to
rest after the rage and shouting, I leave the room to complete my housework
and my children chores and I try not to remember his anger and assault on
me, he will remain by himself tired from the rage he has given me.
* ماذا تفعلين هل تلجئين إلى أسلوب المقاطعة فلا تكلمينه لمدة أيام أو أسبوع ؟
What do you then do, do you give him the silent treatment for a few days or
a week?
قالت : لا .. إياك وإتباع أسلوب المقاطعة .. لأنها عادة سيئة وهي سلاح ذو حدين
عندما تقاطعين زوجك أسبوعاً قد يكون ذلك صعباً عليه في البداية ويحاول أن يكلمك
ولكن مع الأيام سوف يتعود على ذلك وإن قاطعته أسبوع قاطعك أسبوعين.
She said: No, never give the silent treatment, its a bad habbit and is a
double bladed sword, when you boycott him for a week it would be difficult
on him in the beginning and he will try to speak to you but with time he
will get used to it so that if you boycott him for a week he will boycott
you for two.
عليك أن تعوديه على أنك الهواء الذي يستنشقه والماء الذي يشربه ولا يستغني عنه
.. كوني كالهواء الرقيق وإياك والريح الشديدة
You have to make him used to the fact that you are the air he breathes, the
water which he drinks and cant live without, be like a gentle breeze and
never like a strong wind.
* إذاً ماذا تفعلين بعد ذلك ؟؟
So what do you do afterwards?
بعد ساعتين أو أكثر .. أضع له كوباً من العصير أو فنجاناً من القهوة وأقول له
تفضل أشرب , لأنه فعلاً محتاج إليه وأكلمه بشكل عادي ... سيقوم بسؤالي هل أنتِ
غاضبة ؟؟ فأقول لا
After two hours or more, I give him a glass of juice or a cup of coffee and
tell him please drink, for he is really in need for it and I talk to him
normaly, he will ask me: are you angry? and I say No.
فيبدأ بالاعتذار عن كلامه القاسي ويسمعني الكلام الجميل
He starts to apologize for his harsh talk and starts sweet talking me.
* وهل تصدقين اعتذاره وكلامه الجميل؟؟
And you believe his apology and sweet talk?
طبعاً ... لأني أثق بنفسي ولست غبية ...!!!
Ofcourse, because I trust myself and because I am not stupid.
هل تريدين مني تصديق كلامه وهو غاضب وتكذيبه وهو هادئ ؟؟؟
You want me to believe his talk whilst he is in rage and disbelieve it
whilst he is calm?
إن الإسلام لا يقر طلاق الغاضب ... وهو طلاق!! فكيف ما حصل معي أنا؟؟؟
Islam has not approved divorce whilst in rage , and thats divorce! so what
about what happened to me?
* فقيل لها ... و كرامتك ؟؟
She was told: What about your dignity?
قالت : أي كرامة ؟
She said: What dignity?
كرامتك ألا تصدقي أي كلمة جارحة من إنسان غاضب
Your dignity is when you dont believe a harsh word from an angry person.
و أن تصدقي كلامه عندما يكون هادئاً
And to believe his talk when he is calm.
أسامحه فوراً لأني قد نسيت كل الشتائم وأدركت أهمية
.سماع الكلام المفيد
I forgive him immediately because I have forgotten all the foul language and
realized the importance of hearing beneficial talk
وباختصار ومما سبق يمكن أن أقول :
سر السعادة الزوجية عقل المرأة ومربط تلك السعادة لسانها
And to summarize the above I can say: The secret to a happy marriage is the
woman's brain and that happiness's knot is her tongue.
http://thisdunyadis tracts.multiply. com/journal/ item/19
* A womans brain is tied to her tongue!!*
نحن نؤمن أن التوفيق بيد الله سبحانه وحدة وأن كل شيء مقدر ومكتوب .. ولكن هناك
أسباب يجب الأخذ بها مع التوكل على الله
We believe that success is in the hands of Allah SWT and that everything has
been written and destined.. but there are actions that we must be doing
whilst having Tawakul on Allah SWT
وهنا أذكر لكم ما قالته عجوز وهي سيدة حكيمة يحبها زوجها كثيراً حتى أنه كان
يحلو له أن ينشد لها أبيات الحب والغرام وكلما تقدماً في السن ازداد حبهما
وسعادتهما .. وعندما سألت تلك المرأة عن سر سعادتها الدائمة
And I shall mention to you what an old lady, that was very wise and greatly
loved by her husband to a point where he loved to sing love poetry to her
and as they grew old their love and happiness grew with them, said when she
was asked about the secret to her enduring happiness.
قالت : الحصول على السعادة الزوجية بيد المرأة , فالمرأة تستطيع أن تجعل من
بيتها جنة وارفة الظلال أو جهنم مستعرة النيران .>
She Said: Attaining married life happiness is in the hands of the woman, for
she can make her house a living heaven or turn it into burning hell.
لا تقولي المال .. فكثير من النساء الغنيات تعيسات وهرب منهن أزواجهن
Dont say money for alot of rich women are miserable and have been deserted
by their husbands.
ولا تقولي الأولاد .. فهناك من النساء من أنجبن 10 صبيان وزوجها يهينها ولا
يحبها ويمكن أن يطلقها
And dont say children for there are alot of women with 10 boys, have
husbands insulting them, not loving them and will probably divorce them.
ولا تقولي طباخة .. لأن الكثير منهن ماهرات في الطبخ , فالواحدة منهن تطبخ طوال
النهار ومع ذلك تشكو سوء معاملة زوجها وقلة احترامه لها
And dont say cooking because alot of them are experts at cooking, the one of
them cooks all day and yet complains about the maltreatment of and lack of
respect by her husband.
* إذا ما هو السر ؟؟؟
So what is the secret?
* ماذا كنت تعملين عند حدوث المشاكل مع زوجك ؟؟؟
What did you do when problems ocured with your husband?
قالت : عندما يغضب ويثور زوجي – وقد كان عصبياً – كنت ألجأ إلى الصمت المطبق
بكل احترام .. إياك والصمت المصاحب لنظرة سخرية ولو بالعين لأن الرجل ذكي و
يفهمها
She said: When my husband gets angry and is in rage I used to resort to
respectful silence, beware of silence whilst ridiculing him with your look
for men are smart and get it.
* لم لا تخرجي من الغرفة ؟؟
Why dont you leave the room?
قالت : إياك أن تخرجي من الغرفة .. قد يظن أنك تهربين منه ولا تريدين سماعه ,
عليك بالصمت وموافقته على ما يقول . كنت انتظره حتى يهدأ ثم بعد ذلك أقول له
وبصوتٍ خافت : هل انتهيت؟ ثم أخرج لأنه سيتعب وبحاجة للراحة بعد الكلام والصراخ
.. أخرج من الغرفة لأكمل أعمالي المنزلية وشؤون أولادي وأحاول أن لا أتذكر غضبه
وحربه لي .. وسيظل هو بمفرده وقد أنهكته الحرب التي شنها علي
She said: Never leave the room, he will think you are running away and dont
want to listen to him, you must keep silent and agreeing to what he says. I
would wait for him until he cools down and then I would tell him in a gentle
voice: Are you done? then I leave because he will get tired and needs to
rest after the rage and shouting, I leave the room to complete my housework
and my children chores and I try not to remember his anger and assault on
me, he will remain by himself tired from the rage he has given me.
* ماذا تفعلين هل تلجئين إلى أسلوب المقاطعة فلا تكلمينه لمدة أيام أو أسبوع ؟
What do you then do, do you give him the silent treatment for a few days or
a week?
قالت : لا .. إياك وإتباع أسلوب المقاطعة .. لأنها عادة سيئة وهي سلاح ذو حدين
عندما تقاطعين زوجك أسبوعاً قد يكون ذلك صعباً عليه في البداية ويحاول أن يكلمك
ولكن مع الأيام سوف يتعود على ذلك وإن قاطعته أسبوع قاطعك أسبوعين.
She said: No, never give the silent treatment, its a bad habbit and is a
double bladed sword, when you boycott him for a week it would be difficult
on him in the beginning and he will try to speak to you but with time he
will get used to it so that if you boycott him for a week he will boycott
you for two.
عليك أن تعوديه على أنك الهواء الذي يستنشقه والماء الذي يشربه ولا يستغني عنه
.. كوني كالهواء الرقيق وإياك والريح الشديدة
You have to make him used to the fact that you are the air he breathes, the
water which he drinks and cant live without, be like a gentle breeze and
never like a strong wind.
* إذاً ماذا تفعلين بعد ذلك ؟؟
So what do you do afterwards?
بعد ساعتين أو أكثر .. أضع له كوباً من العصير أو فنجاناً من القهوة وأقول له
تفضل أشرب , لأنه فعلاً محتاج إليه وأكلمه بشكل عادي ... سيقوم بسؤالي هل أنتِ
غاضبة ؟؟ فأقول لا
After two hours or more, I give him a glass of juice or a cup of coffee and
tell him please drink, for he is really in need for it and I talk to him
normaly, he will ask me: are you angry? and I say No.
فيبدأ بالاعتذار عن كلامه القاسي ويسمعني الكلام الجميل
He starts to apologize for his harsh talk and starts sweet talking me.
* وهل تصدقين اعتذاره وكلامه الجميل؟؟
And you believe his apology and sweet talk?
طبعاً ... لأني أثق بنفسي ولست غبية ...!!!
Ofcourse, because I trust myself and because I am not stupid.
هل تريدين مني تصديق كلامه وهو غاضب وتكذيبه وهو هادئ ؟؟؟
You want me to believe his talk whilst he is in rage and disbelieve it
whilst he is calm?
إن الإسلام لا يقر طلاق الغاضب ... وهو طلاق!! فكيف ما حصل معي أنا؟؟؟
Islam has not approved divorce whilst in rage , and thats divorce! so what
about what happened to me?
* فقيل لها ... و كرامتك ؟؟
She was told: What about your dignity?
قالت : أي كرامة ؟
She said: What dignity?
كرامتك ألا تصدقي أي كلمة جارحة من إنسان غاضب
Your dignity is when you dont believe a harsh word from an angry person.
و أن تصدقي كلامه عندما يكون هادئاً
And to believe his talk when he is calm.
أسامحه فوراً لأني قد نسيت كل الشتائم وأدركت أهمية
.سماع الكلام المفيد
I forgive him immediately because I have forgotten all the foul language and
realized the importance of hearing beneficial talk
وباختصار ومما سبق يمكن أن أقول :
سر السعادة الزوجية عقل المرأة ومربط تلك السعادة لسانها
And to summarize the above I can say: The secret to a happy marriage is the
woman's brain and that happiness's knot is her tongue.
http://thisdunyadis tracts.multiply. com/journal/ item/19
Thursday, 20 May 2010
Tuesday, 18 May 2010
Ibn Qayyim on How We Spend Our Day
Ibn Qayyim on How We Spend Our Day
Ibn al-Qayyim [rahimahullah] said,When a person spends his entire day with no other concern but Allaah alone, Allaah [subhaa nahu wa ta’ala] will take care of all his needs and take care of all that is worrying him. He will empty his heart so that it will be filled only with love for Him, free his tongue so that it will speak only in remembrance of Him [dhikr], and cause all his faculties to work only in obedience to Him. But when a person spends his entire day with no other concern but this world, Allaah will make him bear its distress, anxiety and pain. He will leave him to sort himself out, and cause his heart to be distracted from the love of Allaah towards the love of some created being. He will cause his tongue to speak only in remembering people instead of remembering Allaah. He will cause him to use his talents and energy in obeying and serving the people. This person will strive hard, laboring like some work-animal, to serve something other than Allaah. Everyone who turns away from being a true slave of Allaah by obeying and loving Him, will be burdened with servitude to some created being. Allaah says in the Qur’an [interpretation of the meaning]:And whosoever turns away [blinds himself] from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent, We appoint for him a shaytaan to be his Qareen [intimate companion]. (Sura al-Zukhruf, Ayah 36).It was narrated that Anas [radi Allaahu anhu] said that the Prophet [sallal laahu alaihi wa sallam] said:Whoever is mainly concerned about the Hereafter, Allaah will make him feel independent of others and will make him focused and content, and his worldly affairs will fall into place. But whoever is mainly concerned with this world, Allaah will make him feel in constant need of others and will make him distracted and unfocused, and he will get nothing of this world except what is decreed for him. (narrated by al-Tirmidhi, Hadith No. 2389 and classed as Saheeh by Shaykh Muhammad Naasiruddin al-Albaani [rahimahullah])(Source: al-Fawaa’ id, page 159)
Ibn al-Qayyim [rahimahullah] said,When a person spends his entire day with no other concern but Allaah alone, Allaah [subhaa nahu wa ta’ala] will take care of all his needs and take care of all that is worrying him. He will empty his heart so that it will be filled only with love for Him, free his tongue so that it will speak only in remembrance of Him [dhikr], and cause all his faculties to work only in obedience to Him. But when a person spends his entire day with no other concern but this world, Allaah will make him bear its distress, anxiety and pain. He will leave him to sort himself out, and cause his heart to be distracted from the love of Allaah towards the love of some created being. He will cause his tongue to speak only in remembering people instead of remembering Allaah. He will cause him to use his talents and energy in obeying and serving the people. This person will strive hard, laboring like some work-animal, to serve something other than Allaah. Everyone who turns away from being a true slave of Allaah by obeying and loving Him, will be burdened with servitude to some created being. Allaah says in the Qur’an [interpretation of the meaning]:And whosoever turns away [blinds himself] from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent, We appoint for him a shaytaan to be his Qareen [intimate companion]. (Sura al-Zukhruf, Ayah 36).It was narrated that Anas [radi Allaahu anhu] said that the Prophet [sallal laahu alaihi wa sallam] said:Whoever is mainly concerned about the Hereafter, Allaah will make him feel independent of others and will make him focused and content, and his worldly affairs will fall into place. But whoever is mainly concerned with this world, Allaah will make him feel in constant need of others and will make him distracted and unfocused, and he will get nothing of this world except what is decreed for him. (narrated by al-Tirmidhi, Hadith No. 2389 and classed as Saheeh by Shaykh Muhammad Naasiruddin al-Albaani [rahimahullah])(Source: al-Fawaa’ id, page 159)
The Believer Fears No Person!
The Believer Fears No Person!
Ibn Taymiyyah commented (‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’; 1/77-78) on the verse: {“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} [Al 'Imran; 175]: “So, this verse proves that Satan makes his allies sources of fear, and he causes people to be afraid of them. And the verse shows that it is not permissible for the believer to fear the allies of Satan, and he should not fear people, as it was Said: {“So, do not fear the people, and fear Me…”} [al-Ma'idah; 44] So, we are commanded to fear Allah, and we are prohibited from fearing the allies of Satan. Allah Said: {“…So that men may have no argument against you except those of them that are wrong-doers. So, fear them not, and fear Me!”} [al-Baqarah; 150] So, He prohibited the fear of the wrong-doer, and He commanded us to fear Him. He also Said: {“Those who convey the message of Allah and fear Him, and fear none except Allah…”} [al-Ahzab; 39] And He Said: {“…and fear Me, alone…”} [an-Nahl; 51] And some people say: ‘O Lord! I fear You and I fear those who don’t fear You.’ These are nonsensical words, and it is not allowed to say them. Rather, one should fear Allah alone and not fear any person, since whoever does not fear Allah is too low to be feared, as he is a wrong-doer and is from the allies of Satan. So, Allah has forbidden us from having fear of such a person. If it is said that ‘such a person can hurt me,’ the response is that he is only hurting you because Allah has set him loose on you, and if Allah seeks to repel his harm from you, He can easily do so. The affair is all with Allah, and He sets people loose upon a person because of his sins, and if you fear Allah and keep your duty to Him and rely on Him, He will protect you from every evil there is and will not allow anyone to have power over you, as He Said: {“And whoever relies on Allah, He is sufficient for him.”} [at-Talaq; 3] The fact that someone is given power over you is the result of your sins and your fear of that person. So, if you fear Allah and repent from your sins and seek His Forgiveness, nobody can overpower you, as Allah Said: {“…and Allah will not punish them while they seek His Forgiveness.”} [al-Anfal; 33] And a narration states that Allah Said: “I am Allah! There is none worthy of worship except Me! I am the King of kings! The hearts and foreheads of all kings are between My Hands. So, whoever obeys Me, I will make the hearts of all kings merciful to him, and whoever disobeys me, I will make them a source of agony for him. So, do not preoccupy yourselves with the abilities of the kings. Rather, repent to Me and obey Me, and I will make them support you.”“ In ‘Ighathat al-Lahfan’ (1/94), Ibn al-Qayyim said: “From the plots of the enemy of Allah (i.e. Satan) is that he makes the believers afraid of his soldiers and allies. So, they do not strive against them, they do not enjoin what is good, and do not forbid what is bad. This is from his greatest plots for the believers, as Allah has informed us by Saying: {“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} …Qatadah explained this by saying: “He makes them great and powerful in his heart. This is why Allah Said: {“…So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} So, the stronger your faith becomes, the weaker the fear in your heart will be of Satan’s allies, and the weaker your faith becomes, the stronger the fear in your heart will be of them.”" In ‘al-Fawa’id’ (p. 78), he also said: “There is nothing that exists that can affect something else completely independently and of its own accord. Rather, nothing can affect something without another factor somehow contributing to that effect and an obstacle is removed that prevents that effect from taking place. This applies to matters that can be seen by the eye. It also applies to the invisible and metaphysical, such as the Sun affecting livestock and plants, as this depends on other factors such as the presence of fertile ground, as well as other factors in addition to this factor. Likewise, childbirth depends on many factors besides intercourse, and this rule applies to everything that affects something else. So every creature that is feared or hoped in is at best simply one of many factors that can affect something else, and nothing can affect something in a completely independent fashion except Allah, the Overwhelming One. So, none should be hoped in or feared except He. This is a concrete proof that attachment, hope, and fear of any but Allah is null. If we were to assume that one can affect something on his own, we would still have to accept that he did not derive this power on his own, and was rather granted it by someone else. So, he has no power of his own, as there is no might nor power except with Allah. He has all might and power in His Hand. So, the might and power for which people are feared are in reality in the Hand of Allah. So, how can we fear and hope in those who have no might or power? In fact, fearing someone and hoping in him is a reason for being afflicted by that very person and being prevented from his mercy, because the more you fear someone other than Allah, the more that person will overpower you, and the higher your hopes are in that person, the more you will be prevented from his mercy.” ٌRegarding this verse, Sayyid Qutb said in ‘Fi Dhilal al-Qur’an’ (1/521): “Indeed, it is Satan who tries to make his allies a source of fear and terror, and to dress them up with the appearance of power and awe. As a result, the believers should be aware of the plot of Satan and impede his attempts. They should not fear these allies of his. Rather, they should fear Allah alone, as He alone is the Mighty, Overwhelming, and Able who should be feared: {“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} Indeed, Satan is the one who inflates the reputation of his allies and dresses them up with the illusion of power and ability, and implants in our hearts the idea that they have the ability to do this and that, and that they can bring about benefit and harm. He does all this to fulfill his own interests: to use them to spread evil and corruption on Earth, as well as to cause people to bow down to them and submit their hearts to them so that nobody would say a word of opposition to their faces, and that nobody would even think of criticizing them or preventing them from evil and corruption. Satan has an interest in falsehood and evil becoming widespread, and that he appear strong, capable, overwhelming, aggressive, and tyrannical so that no opposition stands to his face, nobody repels him, and nobody overpowers him. Satan has an interest in maintaining things this way. So, under the umbrella of fear, terror, and aggression, his allies carry out on Earth that which brings joy to his eyes! They make good appear as evil and evil appear as good. They spread corruption and falsehood and deception. They stifle out the voice of truth, guidance, and justice. They set themselves up as gods on Earth to support evil and kill off good without anyone daring to confront them or stand up to them or expel them from their positions of power – in fact, without anyone pointing out the falsehood that they have beautified or beautifying the truth that they have painted as ugly. And Satan is a deceptive plotter who hides behind his allies and spreads fear through them into the hearts of those who fail to protect themselves from his whispers. Here, Allah exposes him and stands him naked without any covering for his plots, and makes his reality plain and clear to the believers – the reality of his plots and whispers – so that they are aware of them. So, they do not fear the allies of Satan, as they are too weak to be feared by a believer who relies on his Lord and His Power. Indeed, the only power that is to be feared is the power that has the ability to bring about benefit and harm. It is the Power of Allah, and it is the Power that the believers in Allah fear. When they fear it alone – the greatest Power of all powers – no force on Earth can stand in front of them – neither the power of Satan nor the power of the allies of Satan…{“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”}”
Ibn Taymiyyah commented (‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’; 1/77-78) on the verse: {“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} [Al 'Imran; 175]: “So, this verse proves that Satan makes his allies sources of fear, and he causes people to be afraid of them. And the verse shows that it is not permissible for the believer to fear the allies of Satan, and he should not fear people, as it was Said: {“So, do not fear the people, and fear Me…”} [al-Ma'idah; 44] So, we are commanded to fear Allah, and we are prohibited from fearing the allies of Satan. Allah Said: {“…So that men may have no argument against you except those of them that are wrong-doers. So, fear them not, and fear Me!”} [al-Baqarah; 150] So, He prohibited the fear of the wrong-doer, and He commanded us to fear Him. He also Said: {“Those who convey the message of Allah and fear Him, and fear none except Allah…”} [al-Ahzab; 39] And He Said: {“…and fear Me, alone…”} [an-Nahl; 51] And some people say: ‘O Lord! I fear You and I fear those who don’t fear You.’ These are nonsensical words, and it is not allowed to say them. Rather, one should fear Allah alone and not fear any person, since whoever does not fear Allah is too low to be feared, as he is a wrong-doer and is from the allies of Satan. So, Allah has forbidden us from having fear of such a person. If it is said that ‘such a person can hurt me,’ the response is that he is only hurting you because Allah has set him loose on you, and if Allah seeks to repel his harm from you, He can easily do so. The affair is all with Allah, and He sets people loose upon a person because of his sins, and if you fear Allah and keep your duty to Him and rely on Him, He will protect you from every evil there is and will not allow anyone to have power over you, as He Said: {“And whoever relies on Allah, He is sufficient for him.”} [at-Talaq; 3] The fact that someone is given power over you is the result of your sins and your fear of that person. So, if you fear Allah and repent from your sins and seek His Forgiveness, nobody can overpower you, as Allah Said: {“…and Allah will not punish them while they seek His Forgiveness.”} [al-Anfal; 33] And a narration states that Allah Said: “I am Allah! There is none worthy of worship except Me! I am the King of kings! The hearts and foreheads of all kings are between My Hands. So, whoever obeys Me, I will make the hearts of all kings merciful to him, and whoever disobeys me, I will make them a source of agony for him. So, do not preoccupy yourselves with the abilities of the kings. Rather, repent to Me and obey Me, and I will make them support you.”“ In ‘Ighathat al-Lahfan’ (1/94), Ibn al-Qayyim said: “From the plots of the enemy of Allah (i.e. Satan) is that he makes the believers afraid of his soldiers and allies. So, they do not strive against them, they do not enjoin what is good, and do not forbid what is bad. This is from his greatest plots for the believers, as Allah has informed us by Saying: {“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} …Qatadah explained this by saying: “He makes them great and powerful in his heart. This is why Allah Said: {“…So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} So, the stronger your faith becomes, the weaker the fear in your heart will be of Satan’s allies, and the weaker your faith becomes, the stronger the fear in your heart will be of them.”" In ‘al-Fawa’id’ (p. 78), he also said: “There is nothing that exists that can affect something else completely independently and of its own accord. Rather, nothing can affect something without another factor somehow contributing to that effect and an obstacle is removed that prevents that effect from taking place. This applies to matters that can be seen by the eye. It also applies to the invisible and metaphysical, such as the Sun affecting livestock and plants, as this depends on other factors such as the presence of fertile ground, as well as other factors in addition to this factor. Likewise, childbirth depends on many factors besides intercourse, and this rule applies to everything that affects something else. So every creature that is feared or hoped in is at best simply one of many factors that can affect something else, and nothing can affect something in a completely independent fashion except Allah, the Overwhelming One. So, none should be hoped in or feared except He. This is a concrete proof that attachment, hope, and fear of any but Allah is null. If we were to assume that one can affect something on his own, we would still have to accept that he did not derive this power on his own, and was rather granted it by someone else. So, he has no power of his own, as there is no might nor power except with Allah. He has all might and power in His Hand. So, the might and power for which people are feared are in reality in the Hand of Allah. So, how can we fear and hope in those who have no might or power? In fact, fearing someone and hoping in him is a reason for being afflicted by that very person and being prevented from his mercy, because the more you fear someone other than Allah, the more that person will overpower you, and the higher your hopes are in that person, the more you will be prevented from his mercy.” ٌRegarding this verse, Sayyid Qutb said in ‘Fi Dhilal al-Qur’an’ (1/521): “Indeed, it is Satan who tries to make his allies a source of fear and terror, and to dress them up with the appearance of power and awe. As a result, the believers should be aware of the plot of Satan and impede his attempts. They should not fear these allies of his. Rather, they should fear Allah alone, as He alone is the Mighty, Overwhelming, and Able who should be feared: {“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”} Indeed, Satan is the one who inflates the reputation of his allies and dresses them up with the illusion of power and ability, and implants in our hearts the idea that they have the ability to do this and that, and that they can bring about benefit and harm. He does all this to fulfill his own interests: to use them to spread evil and corruption on Earth, as well as to cause people to bow down to them and submit their hearts to them so that nobody would say a word of opposition to their faces, and that nobody would even think of criticizing them or preventing them from evil and corruption. Satan has an interest in falsehood and evil becoming widespread, and that he appear strong, capable, overwhelming, aggressive, and tyrannical so that no opposition stands to his face, nobody repels him, and nobody overpowers him. Satan has an interest in maintaining things this way. So, under the umbrella of fear, terror, and aggression, his allies carry out on Earth that which brings joy to his eyes! They make good appear as evil and evil appear as good. They spread corruption and falsehood and deception. They stifle out the voice of truth, guidance, and justice. They set themselves up as gods on Earth to support evil and kill off good without anyone daring to confront them or stand up to them or expel them from their positions of power – in fact, without anyone pointing out the falsehood that they have beautified or beautifying the truth that they have painted as ugly. And Satan is a deceptive plotter who hides behind his allies and spreads fear through them into the hearts of those who fail to protect themselves from his whispers. Here, Allah exposes him and stands him naked without any covering for his plots, and makes his reality plain and clear to the believers – the reality of his plots and whispers – so that they are aware of them. So, they do not fear the allies of Satan, as they are too weak to be feared by a believer who relies on his Lord and His Power. Indeed, the only power that is to be feared is the power that has the ability to bring about benefit and harm. It is the Power of Allah, and it is the Power that the believers in Allah fear. When they fear it alone – the greatest Power of all powers – no force on Earth can stand in front of them – neither the power of Satan nor the power of the allies of Satan…{“It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers.”}”
Fighting Your Nature
Fighting Your Nature In ‘Hilyat al-Awliya” (10/287),
it’s related that al-Junayd said: الإنسان لا يعاب بما في طبعه إنما يعاب إذا فعل بما في طبعه “A person is not to be blamed for his nature. Rather, he is to be blamed if he acts according to his nature.” This is a very deep statement. A person should not bring his status as an imperfect human being to serve as an excuse for manifesting blameworthy characteristics and actions. Yes, we were fashioned with varying degrees of negative attributes within us, such as envy, greed, lack of gratitude, arrogance, the desire to commit certain sins, etc. However, we were also fashioned with the ability to repel, change, and strive against the inclinations to openly manifest them. It is possible to abandon negative traits you find in yourself and change your character for the better. You just have to know what you want to become, and want it badly enough to put up a fight whenever the negative traits that get in the way begin to surface.
Author : Abu Sabaya :X
it’s related that al-Junayd said: الإنسان لا يعاب بما في طبعه إنما يعاب إذا فعل بما في طبعه “A person is not to be blamed for his nature. Rather, he is to be blamed if he acts according to his nature.” This is a very deep statement. A person should not bring his status as an imperfect human being to serve as an excuse for manifesting blameworthy characteristics and actions. Yes, we were fashioned with varying degrees of negative attributes within us, such as envy, greed, lack of gratitude, arrogance, the desire to commit certain sins, etc. However, we were also fashioned with the ability to repel, change, and strive against the inclinations to openly manifest them. It is possible to abandon negative traits you find in yourself and change your character for the better. You just have to know what you want to become, and want it badly enough to put up a fight whenever the negative traits that get in the way begin to surface.
Author : Abu Sabaya :X
LES BIENFAITS DU DHIKR DE L'ISTIGHFAR
LES BIENFAITS DU DHIKR DE L'ISTIGHFAR
Tel l'eau pour le poisson, le coeur a besoin du rappel de Dieu
et de la récitation du Coran. Le dhikr chasse le Diable et le brise et illumine le coeur, il est un remède contre le durcissement du coeur et dissipe les soucis. Le Prophète (
) a dit :"Celui qui mentionne son Seigneur et celui qui ne le mentionne pas s'apparente respectivement à un vivant et à un mort".
Al Istighfar (la demande de pardon). Elle est liée au repentir (tawba). Faire Tawba est de cesser de pécher avec le coeur et les organes sensuels tels que la vue. Le Prophète (saw) a dit :"Par Dieu, je demande pardon à Dieu et je me repent à Lui plus de soixante dix fois par jour".
Celui qui s’attache à l’istighfar, Allah lui accorde une subsistance d’une voie à partir de laquelle il ne s’attendait pas. Le Prophète ( )a dit :
»مَنْ لَزِمَ الاستِغفَارَ رَزَقَهُ اللهُ مِنْ حيثُ لا يَحتَسِبُ وفَرَّجَ كَربَهُ «
« man lazima l-istighfar razaqahou l-Lahou min haythou la yahtasibou wa farraja karbah » [rapporté par At-Tabaraniyy]
Ce qui signifie :
« Celui qui s’attache à faire l’istighfar régulièrement, Allah lui accorde une subsistance d’une voie à partir de laquelle il ne s’attendait pas et Il le délivre de son tourment. »
Quelqu’un s’est marié et au bout de onze ans il n’a pas eu d’enfant. Lui et son épouse se sont attachés à l’istighfar. Le mois même, sa femme est tombée enceinte. Et il est arrivé la même chose à un autre.
Rappel :
Et aussi, dans un autre Hadith, le Prophète ( ) a dit :
»من لزم الاستغفار جعل الله له من كل ضيق مخرجا، و من كل هم فرجا، ورزقه من حيث لا يحتسب ». رواه أبو داود
Ce qui signifie :
« Celui qui s’attache à faire al-istighfar [régulièrement], Dieu lui aménage une issue à toute dure situation, et Il le délivre de tout tourment, et Il lui accorde une subsistance d’une voie à partir de laquelle il ne s’attendait pas ». [Rapporté par Abou-Dawoud].
Il y a un grand bien a faire al-istighfar TOUS LES JOURS.
On dit tout simplement :
أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله.... أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله .... أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله ....
Astaghfirou l-Lah….. astaghfirou l-Lah… astaghfirou l-Lah…
Ou bien :
رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي.... رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي.... رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي
Rabbi ghfir li…. Rabbi ghfir li…… Rabbi ghfir li…
Ad Doâ (l'invocation) : Dieu le Très Haut a dit "Invoquez Moi et Je vous exaucerai". Le Prophète (saw) a dit "Allah est vivant et généreux, lorsque le serviteur lève ses mains, Allah répugne par pudeur à les renvoyer vide". L'invocation dictée est une certitude et doit être ferme. Le Prophète (saw) a dit "Qu'aucun de vous ne dise : O Allah, pardonne moi si Tu veux... Qu'il soit ferme dans la demande". Le fidèle ne doit pas se lasser et abandonner l'invocation. L'invocation peut être exaucée ultérieurement, il ne faut jamais désespérer de l'exaucement, car ne pas y croire est un signe de manque de confiance et de non soumission à son Créateur.
L'imploration de la grâce sur le Prophète ( ) : Elle est une nécessité pour le coeur car le Prophète ( ) incarne le meilleur exemple de la création, le meilleur des comportements, le suivre est suivre le chemin de la droiture. Le Prophète ( ) a dit selon Anas ibnou Malik "Celui qui implore une seule fois la grâce sur moi, Allah lui en accorde dix, le débarrasse de dix mauvaises et l'élève de dix degrés".
Les prières nocturnes : Ibn al Munkadir a dit : il ne reste des plaisirs de ce monde que trois choses : passer la nuit en prière, rencontrer les frères et prier en commun". Les prières nocturnes sont un grand bien pour le coeur et très peu se lèvent pour faire cet acte surérogatoire. Par cet acte, le fidèle recherche la face de son Seigneur, le vrai rapprochement avec les valeurs pour lesquelles l'Homme a été crée et cela est de ce fait un grand bienfait.
Wa Allahou a3lam wa ahkam
Tel l'eau pour le poisson, le coeur a besoin du rappel de Dieu
et de la récitation du Coran. Le dhikr chasse le Diable et le brise et illumine le coeur, il est un remède contre le durcissement du coeur et dissipe les soucis. Le Prophète ( ) a dit :"Celui qui mentionne son Seigneur et celui qui ne le mentionne pas s'apparente respectivement à un vivant et à un mort". Al Istighfar (la demande de pardon). Elle est liée au repentir (tawba). Faire Tawba est de cesser de pécher avec le coeur et les organes sensuels tels que la vue. Le Prophète (saw) a dit :"Par Dieu, je demande pardon à Dieu et je me repent à Lui plus de soixante dix fois par jour".
Celui qui s’attache à l’istighfar, Allah lui accorde une subsistance d’une voie à partir de laquelle il ne s’attendait pas. Le Prophète (
)a dit : »مَنْ لَزِمَ الاستِغفَارَ رَزَقَهُ اللهُ مِنْ حيثُ لا يَحتَسِبُ وفَرَّجَ كَربَهُ «
« man lazima l-istighfar razaqahou l-Lahou min haythou la yahtasibou wa farraja karbah » [rapporté par At-Tabaraniyy]
Ce qui signifie :
« Celui qui s’attache à faire l’istighfar régulièrement, Allah lui accorde une subsistance d’une voie à partir de laquelle il ne s’attendait pas et Il le délivre de son tourment. »
Quelqu’un s’est marié et au bout de onze ans il n’a pas eu d’enfant. Lui et son épouse se sont attachés à l’istighfar. Le mois même, sa femme est tombée enceinte. Et il est arrivé la même chose à un autre.
Rappel :
Et aussi, dans un autre Hadith, le Prophète (
) a dit : »من لزم الاستغفار جعل الله له من كل ضيق مخرجا، و من كل هم فرجا، ورزقه من حيث لا يحتسب ». رواه أبو داود
Ce qui signifie :
« Celui qui s’attache à faire al-istighfar [régulièrement], Dieu lui aménage une issue à toute dure situation, et Il le délivre de tout tourment, et Il lui accorde une subsistance d’une voie à partir de laquelle il ne s’attendait pas ». [Rapporté par Abou-Dawoud].
Il y a un grand bien a faire al-istighfar TOUS LES JOURS.
On dit tout simplement :
أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله.... أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله .... أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله ....
Astaghfirou l-Lah….. astaghfirou l-Lah… astaghfirou l-Lah…
Ou bien :
رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي.... رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي.... رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي
Rabbi ghfir li…. Rabbi ghfir li…… Rabbi ghfir li…
Ad Doâ (l'invocation) : Dieu le Très Haut a dit "Invoquez Moi et Je vous exaucerai". Le Prophète (saw) a dit "Allah est vivant et généreux, lorsque le serviteur lève ses mains, Allah répugne par pudeur à les renvoyer vide". L'invocation dictée est une certitude et doit être ferme. Le Prophète (saw) a dit "Qu'aucun de vous ne dise : O Allah, pardonne moi si Tu veux... Qu'il soit ferme dans la demande". Le fidèle ne doit pas se lasser et abandonner l'invocation. L'invocation peut être exaucée ultérieurement, il ne faut jamais désespérer de l'exaucement, car ne pas y croire est un signe de manque de confiance et de non soumission à son Créateur.
L'imploration de la grâce sur le Prophète (
) : Elle est une nécessité pour le coeur car le Prophète ( ) incarne le meilleur exemple de la création, le meilleur des comportements, le suivre est suivre le chemin de la droiture. Le Prophète ( ) a dit selon Anas ibnou Malik "Celui qui implore une seule fois la grâce sur moi, Allah lui en accorde dix, le débarrasse de dix mauvaises et l'élève de dix degrés". Les prières nocturnes : Ibn al Munkadir a dit : il ne reste des plaisirs de ce monde que trois choses : passer la nuit en prière, rencontrer les frères et prier en commun". Les prières nocturnes sont un grand bien pour le coeur et très peu se lèvent pour faire cet acte surérogatoire. Par cet acte, le fidèle recherche la face de son Seigneur, le vrai rapprochement avec les valeurs pour lesquelles l'Homme a été crée et cela est de ce fait un grand bienfait.
Wa Allahou a3lam wa ahkam
Sandra-Salma oum Dounia 
" Si tu veux savoir quelle place tu occupes auprés de Dieu........
regarde quelle place Dieu prend dans ton coeur "
« Innalillahi wa inna ilayhi râji’oun. Allahoumma ajirnî fi moussibatî wa khlif lî khayran minhâ »
« Certes nous sommes à Allah et à Lui nous retourneront. Ô Allah, rétribue-moi dans mon malheur et remplace-le moi par quelque chose de meilleur »
Le moyen age....
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xcp36i_plus-de-1001-inventions-islamiques_shortfilms
Saturday, 15 May 2010
How to cure your diseased heart
How to cure your diseased heart __
Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalaanee rahimahullahu ta’aala said: The heart has been singled out because it is the leader of the body and through the purification of the leader, the subjects become purified, and with his corruption they become corrupted. So if you, O servant of Allaah, wish to cure your heart then it is upon you to be truthful with regards to (1)seeking refuge with Allaah and (2)putting trust in Him, to (3)pray a great deal of supererogatory prayers, to (4)perform the actions of obedience to Allaah frequently, (5) to pray the night prayer while the people are sleeping, and to treat your heart by (6) making it continuously stick to the remembrances and by (7) befriending only the righteous… and to (8)frequently recite the Qur’aan. And Allaah will indeed allow all of this to be preserved by Him. Source: Diseases and Cures of the Heart by Shaykhul Islaam ibn Taymiyyah (actually on the back cover of the english version)
Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalaanee rahimahullahu ta’aala said: The heart has been singled out because it is the leader of the body and through the purification of the leader, the subjects become purified, and with his corruption they become corrupted. So if you, O servant of Allaah, wish to cure your heart then it is upon you to be truthful with regards to (1)seeking refuge with Allaah and (2)putting trust in Him, to (3)pray a great deal of supererogatory prayers, to (4)perform the actions of obedience to Allaah frequently, (5) to pray the night prayer while the people are sleeping, and to treat your heart by (6) making it continuously stick to the remembrances and by (7) befriending only the righteous… and to (8)frequently recite the Qur’aan. And Allaah will indeed allow all of this to be preserved by Him. Source: Diseases and Cures of the Heart by Shaykhul Islaam ibn Taymiyyah (actually on the back cover of the english version)
Friday, 14 May 2010
While Imaam Ahmed ibn Hanbal was in prison..
While Imaam Ahmed ibn Hanbal was in prison.. Bismillah Hir Rahmaan Nir Raheem Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatuhu While Imaam Ahmed ibn Hanbal was in prison... In al-Siyar (11/238), al-Dhahabi reports from Abu Ja'far al-Anbaari: When Ahmad was taken to al-Ma'moon, I was told about it, so I crossed the Euphrates and found him sitting in an inn, where I greeted him. He said, "O Abu Ja'far, why did you go to the trouble (of coming here)" I said, "Listen to me, today you are the leader and the people are following you. By Allaah, if you accept that the Qur'aan is created, a lot of people will go along with that, but if you do not, then neither will they. Even if this man (al-Ma'moon) does not kill you, you will still die, because death is inevitable, so fear Allaah, and do not go along with (al-Ma'moon).? Ahmad began to weep and said, "Ma sha Allaah" Then he said, "O Abu Ja'far, say it again,' so I said it again, and he kept saying, "Ma sha Allaah." With regard to his being taken to al-Ma'moon, Imaam Ahmad said: "We reached al-Rahbah at midnight, and a man came to us and said, "Which of you is Ahmad ibn Hanbal" He was told, "This man." He said to the camel-driver, 'Slow down.' Then he said, "Listen to me, why should you worry if you get killed here and go to Paradise" Then he said, "May Allaah be with you," and left. I asked about him and I was told, "He is an Arab from the tribe of Rabee'ah who deals with wool in the desert. He is called Jaabir ibn 'Aamir, and they say good things about him." (Siyar A'laam al-Nubala', 11/241). In al-Bidaayah wa'l-Nihaayah, it says that a Bedouin said to Imaam Ahmad: "Listen to me, you are a representative of the people, so do not be bad news for them. You are the leader of the people today, so beware of doing what they are asking you to do, lest you bear their sins on the Day of Resurrection. If you love Allaah, then bear this with patience, for the only thing standing between you and Paradise is your being killed." Imaam Ahmad said: "His words strengthened my resolve not to do what they were asking me to do." (Al-Bidaayah wa'l-Nihaayah, 1/332). It was reported that Imaam Ahmad said: "I never heard any stronger words at that time than what a Bedouin said to me at Rahbat Tawq, a village between al- Raqqah and Baghdaad on the banks of the Euphrates. He said, "O Ahmad, if they kill you for the truth, you will be a shaheed (martyr), and if you live, you will be praised." And so my heart grew strong." (Siyar A'laam al-Nubala', 11/241). Imaam Ahmad said of the young man Muhammad ibn Nooh, who accompanied him at that time of trial: "Even though he was so young, he had such great knowledge, and I never saw anyone who adhered more firmly to the command of Allaah than Muhammad ibn Nooh, and I hope that his end was good. He said to me one day, "O Abu 'Abd-Allaah, you are not like me. You are a man whom people follow, and they are straining their necks to see what you will do, so fear Allaah and adhere to His commands.? Then he died, and I prayed the janaazah (funeral) prayer for him and buried him." (Siyar A'laam al-Nubala', 11/242) Even his fellow-prisoners, whom Imaam Ahmad used to lead in prayer in chains, had a role to play in helping him to stand firm. One day when he was in prison, Imaam Ahmad said, "I don't care about being in prison ? it is no different from my home ? or about being killed by the sword, but I am afraid of the trial of being whipped.? One of the other prisoners heard him and said, "Don't worry, O Abu 'Abd-Allaah, it is only two lashes of the whip, then you don't feel where the rest fall." It was as if this reassured him and calmed him down. (Siyar A?laam al-Nubala?, 11/240) Al-Ma'mun adopted this belief, and came to torture Ahmad bin Hambal, so that he would do the same. al-Ma'mun died, al-Mu'tasim continued in torturing him, and he took a stand for Allah - the Mighty and Exalted - in which he honored this religion. Eighteen years, and three rulers who tortured him so that he would accept and endorse the belief of the Qur'an being created, but, he refused. Then came al-Wathiq, who reversed all that had happened in terms of the affair of the creation of the Qur'an. He wanted to honor Ahmad bin Hambal publicly, but, Imam Ahmad refused. So, he sent for his sons and showered them with gifts, which they accepted. When Ahmad bin Hambal learned that his sons had accepted the gifts of al-Wathiq, he built a wall between his home and theirs, boycotting them. One day, Ahmad bin Hambal became sick. So, his doctor instructed him to roast a ear of corn in the oven and eat it. So, he bought the corn, and asked that it be roasted. So, it was taken to the oven of his uncle, Salih. When it was brought back to Ahmad, he asked: "Where did you roast it?" They said: "In the oven of your uncle, Salih." He said: "I will not even taste it, as his wealth has been mixed with the gifts of the ruler." As a result, it got to the point that even the jinn would fear him! A crazed girl was brought to al-Wathiq, so, he said: "Send her to Ahmad bin Hambal." When she was brought to Ahmad, they asked him: "Please cure this crazed girl for us!" So, he began to speak to the jinni that had possessed this girl, saying: "Get out of this girl! Get out of this girl!" But, it didn't come out. He continued, saying: "Get out, or I'll - and Ahmad began to threaten the jinni - " and the jinni came out, saying: "O Ahmad! You feared Allah, so, everything is afraid of you! You feared Allah, so, everything is afraid of you!" The jinni waited until Ahmad bin Hambal eventually died, and it returned to possess the girl once again. So, they brought the girl to a shaykh - who, as it was said, is more like us than Ahmad bin Hambal - and he began to speak to the jinni, saying: "Get out, or I'll..." Suddenly, the jinni began to laugh, saying: "Ahmad bin Hambal has died; Ahmad bin Hambal has died..."" "Abstain from the dunya, and Allah will Love you. Abstain from what is with the people, and the people will love you." ['Fi Dhilal Surat at-Tawbah'; p. 195-196]
Thursday, 13 May 2010
Allah will not Change the Condition of a People until They Change Themselves
Allah will not Change the Condition of a People until They Change ThemselvesQuite often the servant of Allah is granted abundant blessings but he becomes bored and longs to change it for another which he claims is better. In fact, Allah, the Merciful does not deprive him of this blessing, and He excuses him for his ignorance and bad choice until the servant is unable to bear the blessing, feels discontent, and complains about it. Then Allah will take it away from him. When he gets what he wished for and sees the great difference between what he had before and what he has now, he is filled with worry and regret and he wishes to have what he had before. If Allah wishes good for His servant, He would make him see that whatever blessings he now has is from Allah and He will show him that Allah is pleased with him, and the servant would praise Him. If he is deceived by his soul to change this blessing, he would ask Allah for guidance.There is nothing more harmful to the servant than becoming bored from the blessings of Allah; as he neither sees them as a blessing, praises Allah for them, nor is happy with them but he becomes bored, complains, and considers them as a means of distress. He does not think that these things are from the greatest blessings of Allah. The majority of people are opposed to the blessings of Allah. They do not feel the blessings of Allah, and moreover, they exert their effort to drive them away because of their ignorance and injustice. How often is a blessing bestowed on a person while he is exerting his effort to drive it away and how often does he actually receive it while he is pushing it away, simply because of his ignorance and injustice. Allah says, "That is so because Allah will never change agrace which He has bestowed on a people until they change what is in their ownselves." (Al-Antal, 8:53) And He, the Almighty says,"Allah will not change the good condition of a people as long as they do not change their state of goodness themselves (by committing sins and by being ungrateful and disobedient to Allah)." (Ar-Ra'd, 13:11)What can be worse than the enmity of a servant toward the blessings he has received? In so doing, he supports his enemy against himself. His enemy arouses fire in his blessings and he increases the fire unawares. He enables his enemy to light the fire and then he helps his own enemy to blow on it until itbecomes strong. Finally, he seeks help against the fire and blames fate
ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah
ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah
Leaving the `Asr Prayer
Leaving the `Asr Prayer
By Sh. Saleem al-Hilaalee
Invalidation of Actions
Allaah, the Most Perfect and the Most High has ordered His slaves to establish the prayers with due care. He has told us to take special care concerning the middle prayer, which is the `Asr prayer. [This is the opinion of the majority of the people of knowledge from the Companions and those after them, that the middle prayer is the `Asr prayer. See Sharh us-Sunnah of al-Baghawee (2/232-237)]
He, the Most Perfect and the Most High, says
Guard strictly your prayers, and your middle prayer, and stand before Allaah in devoutness. [Soorah al-Baqarah: 238]
He, the Most Perfect and the Most High, has warned us about being neglectful of them, due to wealth, family and from other temptations of this world. He has particularised the doer of these actions with a severe punishment, particularly regarding the `Asr prayer.
He, the Most High, says:
So woe to the worshippers who are neglectful of their prayers. [Soorah al-Maa’oon:4-5]
The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: Whoever misses the `Asr prayer, it is as if he has lost his family and wealth.
[Related by al-Bukhaaree (2/30), Muslim (626) and others, from the hadeeth of Ibn `Umar, radiyallaahu `anhu.]
It is related from Aboo al-Mulaih `Aamir bin Usaamah bin `Umair bin al-Hadhalee, who said: We were with Buraidah in a battle on a cloudy day, and he said: Be early with the `Asr prayer, for the Prophet said: Whoever leaves the `Asr prayer, then his actions will be invalidated.
[Related by al-Bukhaaree (2/31,66), Ahmad (5/349-450, 357, 360,361), al-Bayhaqee (1/444), al-Baghawee in Sharh us-Sunnah (329), and others.]
By Sh. Saleem al-Hilaalee
Invalidation of Actions
Allaah, the Most Perfect and the Most High has ordered His slaves to establish the prayers with due care. He has told us to take special care concerning the middle prayer, which is the `Asr prayer. [This is the opinion of the majority of the people of knowledge from the Companions and those after them, that the middle prayer is the `Asr prayer. See Sharh us-Sunnah of al-Baghawee (2/232-237)]
He, the Most Perfect and the Most High, says
Guard strictly your prayers, and your middle prayer, and stand before Allaah in devoutness. [Soorah al-Baqarah: 238]
He, the Most Perfect and the Most High, has warned us about being neglectful of them, due to wealth, family and from other temptations of this world. He has particularised the doer of these actions with a severe punishment, particularly regarding the `Asr prayer.
He, the Most High, says:
So woe to the worshippers who are neglectful of their prayers. [Soorah al-Maa’oon:4-5]
The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: Whoever misses the `Asr prayer, it is as if he has lost his family and wealth.
[Related by al-Bukhaaree (2/30), Muslim (626) and others, from the hadeeth of Ibn `Umar, radiyallaahu `anhu.]
It is related from Aboo al-Mulaih `Aamir bin Usaamah bin `Umair bin al-Hadhalee, who said: We were with Buraidah in a battle on a cloudy day, and he said: Be early with the `Asr prayer, for the Prophet said: Whoever leaves the `Asr prayer, then his actions will be invalidated.
[Related by al-Bukhaaree (2/31,66), Ahmad (5/349-450, 357, 360,361), al-Bayhaqee (1/444), al-Baghawee in Sharh us-Sunnah (329), and others.]
Marriage in Islam
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.
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Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (pbuh) has said "there is no celibacy in Islam.
Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high "taqwa" / "Iman". The prophet has also said, "Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me".
Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.
It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.
Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.
The purpose of Marriage.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The word "zawj" is used in the Qur'an to mean a pair or a mate. In general it usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can provide company to one another, love to one another, procreate children and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of Allah.
* Marriage serves as a means to emotional and sexual gratification and as a means of tension reduction. It is also a form of Ibadah because it is obeying Allah and his messenger - i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite. One could choose to live in sin, however by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to Allah.
Marriage is "mithaq" - a solemn covenant (agreement). It is not a matter which can be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new dress where you can exchange it if you don't like it. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can be a lasting one. For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met.
1) consent of both parties.
2) " Mahr" a gift from the groom to his bride.
3) Witnesses- 2 male or female.
4) The marriage should be publicized, it should never be kept secret as it leads to suspicion and troubles within the community.
Is Marriage obligatory?
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According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommendatory, however in certain individuals it becomes wajib/obligatory. Imam Shaafi'i considers it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit fornication, then marriage becomes "wajib". If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes "wajib" for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed especially if one has the means to do so.
A man, however should not marry if he or she does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, or if he has no sex drive or if dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation.
The general principle is that prophet (pbuh) enjoined up in the followers to marry.
He said "when a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion , so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." This hadith is narrated by Anas. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from and upholds the family unit which Islam places great importance.
Selection of a partner:
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The choice of a partner should be the one with the most "taqwa" (piety). The prophet recommended the suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a lustful one. This ruling does not contradict the ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.
- The couple, however are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. As the hadith says "when a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.
- There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practised in the west. There is no dating or living in defacto relationship or trying each other out before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship what so ever before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the west to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. Romance and love simply do not equal a everlasting bond between two people.
Fact: Romance and love die out very quickly when we have to deal in the real world. The unrealistic expectations that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.
- The west make fun of the Islamic way of marriage in particular arranged marriage, yet the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship.
This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner.
Love blinds people to potential problems in the relationship. There is an Arabic saying: which says "the mirror of love is blind, it makes zucchini into okra". Arranged marriages on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
This is why they often prove successful.
Consent of parties.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter.
One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple.
Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.
The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The prophet said "the widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.
The husband/wife relationship.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
-The wifes rights - the Husbands obligations.
(1) Maintenance
The husband is responsible for the wifes maintenance. This right is established by authority of the Qur'an and the sunnah. It is inconsequen tial whether the wife is a Muslim , non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy or sick. A component of his role as "qawam" (leader) is to bear the financial responsibility of the family in a generous way so that his wife may be assured security and thus perform her role devotedly.
The wifes maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food and general care, like medication, hospital bills etc. He must lodge her where he resides himself according to his means. The wifes lodge must be adequate so as to ensure her privacy, comfort and independence.
If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husbands duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The prophet is reported to have said: The best Muslim is one who is the best husband.
(2) "Mahr "
The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-material like teaching her to read the Qur'an. " Mahr" is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the brides parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur'an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.
(3) Non-material rights.
A husband is commanded by the law of Allah to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The prophet last sermon stresses kindness to women.
The wife obligations - the Husbands rights.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and blissfulness of the marriage. She must be attentive to the comfort and wellbeing of her husband. The Qur'anic ayah which illustrates this point is:
"Our lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the apples of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous"
The wife must be faithful, trustworthy and honest she must not deceive her husband by deliberately avoiding conceiving. She must not allow any other person to have access to that which is exclusively the husband right i.e. sexual intimacy. She must not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not be alone with a strange male. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion and gossip. The husband possessions are her trust. She may not dispose of his belongings without his permission.
A wife should make herself sexually attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife must not refuse her husband sexually as this can lead to marital problems and worse still - tempt the man to adultery. The husband of course should take into account the wifes health and general consideration should be given.
Obedience.
^^^^^^^^^
The purpose of obedience in the relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. The man has been given the right to be obeyed because he is the leader and not because he is superior. If a leader is not obeyed , his leadership will become invalid -Imagine a king or a teacher or a parent without the necessary authority which has been entrusted to them.
Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:
(a) It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.
(b) It must be maintained only with regard to matters that fall under the husband rights. http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (pbuh) has said "there is no celibacy in Islam.
Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high "taqwa" / "Iman". The prophet has also said, "Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me".
Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.
It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.
Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.
The purpose of Marriage.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The word "zawj" is used in the Qur'an to mean a pair or a mate. In general it usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can provide company to one another, love to one another, procreate children and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of Allah.
* Marriage serves as a means to emotional and sexual gratification and as a means of tension reduction. It is also a form of Ibadah because it is obeying Allah and his messenger - i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite. One could choose to live in sin, however by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to Allah.
Marriage is "mithaq" - a solemn covenant (agreement). It is not a matter which can be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new dress where you can exchange it if you don't like it. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can be a lasting one. For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met.
1) consent of both parties.
2) " Mahr" a gift from the groom to his bride.
3) Witnesses- 2 male or female.
4) The marriage should be publicized, it should never be kept secret as it leads to suspicion and troubles within the community.
Is Marriage obligatory?
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommendatory, however in certain individuals it becomes wajib/obligatory. Imam Shaafi'i considers it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit fornication, then marriage becomes "wajib". If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes "wajib" for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed especially if one has the means to do so.
A man, however should not marry if he or she does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, or if he has no sex drive or if dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation.
The general principle is that prophet (pbuh) enjoined up in the followers to marry.
He said "when a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion , so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." This hadith is narrated by Anas. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from and upholds the family unit which Islam places great importance.
Selection of a partner:
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The choice of a partner should be the one with the most "taqwa" (piety). The prophet recommended the suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a lustful one. This ruling does not contradict the ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.
- The couple, however are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. As the hadith says "when a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.
- There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practised in the west. There is no dating or living in defacto relationship or trying each other out before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship what so ever before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the west to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. Romance and love simply do not equal a everlasting bond between two people.
Fact: Romance and love die out very quickly when we have to deal in the real world. The unrealistic expectations that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.
- The west make fun of the Islamic way of marriage in particular arranged marriage, yet the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship.
This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner.
Love blinds people to potential problems in the relationship. There is an Arabic saying: which says "the mirror of love is blind, it makes zucchini into okra". Arranged marriages on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
This is why they often prove successful.
Consent of parties.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter.
One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple.
Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.
The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The prophet said "the widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.
The husband/wife relationship.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
-The wifes rights - the Husbands obligations.
(1) Maintenance
The husband is responsible for the wifes maintenance. This right is established by authority of the Qur'an and the sunnah. It is inconsequen tial whether the wife is a Muslim , non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy or sick. A component of his role as "qawam" (leader) is to bear the financial responsibility of the family in a generous way so that his wife may be assured security and thus perform her role devotedly.
The wifes maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food and general care, like medication, hospital bills etc. He must lodge her where he resides himself according to his means. The wifes lodge must be adequate so as to ensure her privacy, comfort and independence.
If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husbands duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The prophet is reported to have said: The best Muslim is one who is the best husband.
(2) "Mahr "
The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-material like teaching her to read the Qur'an. " Mahr" is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the brides parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur'an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.
(3) Non-material rights.
A husband is commanded by the law of Allah to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The prophet last sermon stresses kindness to women.
The wife obligations - the Husbands rights.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and blissfulness of the marriage. She must be attentive to the comfort and wellbeing of her husband. The Qur'anic ayah which illustrates this point is:
"Our lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the apples of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous"
The wife must be faithful, trustworthy and honest she must not deceive her husband by deliberately avoiding conceiving. She must not allow any other person to have access to that which is exclusively the husband right i.e. sexual intimacy. She must not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not be alone with a strange male. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion and gossip. The husband possessions are her trust. She may not dispose of his belongings without his permission.
A wife should make herself sexually attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife must not refuse her husband sexually as this can lead to marital problems and worse still - tempt the man to adultery. The husband of course should take into account the wifes health and general consideration should be given.
Obedience.
^^^^^^^^^
The purpose of obedience in the relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. The man has been given the right to be obeyed because he is the leader and not because he is superior. If a leader is not obeyed , his leadership will become invalid -Imagine a king or a teacher or a parent without the necessary authority which has been entrusted to them.
Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:
(a) It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.
(b) It must be maintained only with regard to matters that fall under the husband rights. http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html
Ibn Taymiyah's letter to his mother
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
من أحمد بن تيمية إلى الوالدة السعيدة، أقر الله عينيها بنعمه، وأسبغ عليها جزيل كرمه، وجعلها من خيار إمائه وخدمه. سلام الله عليكم. ورحمة الله وبركاته. فإنا نحمد إليكم الله، الذي لا إله إلا هو، وهو للحمد أهل، وهو على كل شيء قدير.
ونسأله أن يصلي على خاتم النبيين، وإمام المتقين، محمد عبده ورسوله، صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وسلم تسليمًا. كتابي إليكم عن نعم من الله عظيمة، ومنن كريمة، وآلاء جسيمة نشكر الله عليها، ونسأله المزيد من فضله. ونعم الله كلما جاءت في نمو، وازدياد، وأياديه جلت عن التعداد.
وتعلمون أن مقامنا الساعة في هذه البلاد، إنما هو لأمور ضرورية، متى أهملناها؛ فسد علينا أمر الدين والدنيا.
ولسنا والله مختارين للبعد عنكم، ولو حملتنا الطيور؛ لسرنا إليكم. ولكن الغائب عذره معه، وأنتم لو اطلعتم على باطن الأمور فإنكم - ولله الحمد - ما تختارون الساعة إلا ذلك، ولم نعزم على المقام، والاستيطان شهرًا واحدًا، بل كل يوم نستخير الله لنا ولكم. وادعوا لنا بالخيرة فنسأل الله العظيم أن يخير لنا ولكم وللمسلمين، ما فيه الخيرة، في خير وعافية.
ومع هذا فقد فتح الله من أبواب الخير، والرحمة والهداية، والبركة ما لم يكن يخطر بالبال، ولا يدور في الخيال، ونحن في كل وقت مهمومون بالسفر، مستخيرون الله سبحانه وتعالى. فلا يظن الظان أنا نؤثر على قربكم شيئًا من أمور الدنيا قط. بل ولا نؤثر من أمور الدين ما يكون قربكم أرجح منه. ولكن ثم أمور كبار، نخاف الضرر الخاص والعام من إهمالها. والشاهد يرى ما لا يرى الغائب.
والمطلوب كثرة الدعاء بالخيرة فإن الله يعلم ولا نعلم ويقدر ولا نقدر وهو علام الغيوب. وقد قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: (من سعادة ابن آدم استخارته الله ورضاه بما يقسم الله له ومن شقاوة ابن آدم: ترك استخارته الله وسخطه بما يقسم الله له
والتاجر يكون مسافرًا؛ فيخاف ضياع بعض ماله، فيحتاج أن يقيم؛ حتى يستوفيه، وما نحن فيه أمر يجل عن الوصف ولا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله،
والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته، كثيرًا كثيرًا، وعلى سائر من في البيت، من الكبار، والصغار، وسائر الجيران، والأهل والأصحاب واحدًا واحدًا،
والحمد لله رب العالمين. وصلى الله على محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم تسليمًا.
The letter of Shaykh ul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah to his mother, in which he apologises for his stay in Egypt. A stay he felt was necessary to educate the people:
"In the name of Allah, Most Merciful, Dispenser of Mercy
From Ahmad bin Taymiyyah to my dear and honorable Mother, may Allah bless her amply, and grant her peace and comfort, and make her amongst the best of His servants, Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuh.
We praise Allah, the most worthy of praise. There is no deity worthy of worship but He, and He has Power over all things. We ask Him to bless the Seal of the Prophets and Imaam of the pious, Muhammad His servant and Messenger (Sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam).
Indeed the bounties of Allah come abundantly, and His aid is never ending. We praise Him for it, and ask Him to increase His favor. It will not escape you, my contented mother, the fact that our stay in Egypt is for an important issue. The abandonment of such a task leads to the corruption of our Deen and of our life.
Yet it was not our choice to be far from you. Had birds been able to carry us, we would have come to you. But the absent one has his reason; and had you been able to look deeply into the affairs of the Muslims, you would not choose for me another place to the one I am in now. Nevertheless, I had never intended to reside here permanently. Instead, I pray to Allah to guide you and I to the right choice, and I pray for your well-being. I ask Allah to bless us and the rest of the Muslims, with His goodness and what that goodness encompasses of safety and benefit.
Allah had opened for me His gates of blessings, mercy and guidance in a way I have never conceived of before. Yet I am always considering travel towards you, making the prayers of Istikhaarah. It is inconceivable for me, if given the choice, to favor any of this life's mundane issues or of the lesser obligations of the Deen, to being close to you. Yet there are great issues which l cannot abandon for fear of their general and personal dangers - and the witness sees what the absent does not.
I beseech you to supplicate to Allah profusely. Ask Him to guide us to choose our best paths, for He Knows and we do not, and He is able and we are weak. The Messenger of Allah (Sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:
It is from the happiness of the son of Adam to practice lstikhaarah and be pleased with what Allah had ordained for him. And it is from the misery of the son of Adam to drop tbe Istikhaarah of Allah and be displeased at Allah's decrees.
Indeed, the traveling trader might fear the loss of his money, so he resides at a place until he is able to travel once again. The matter that we are in the middle of is too great to describe, but there is no power or ability but through Allah.
Finally, convey my salaam to the entire household, young and old, and the rest of neighbors, friends and relatives one by one.
Wasalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuh
Praise be to Allah, and may His Blessings and Peace be upon Muhammad, his family and companions".
من أحمد بن تيمية إلى الوالدة السعيدة، أقر الله عينيها بنعمه، وأسبغ عليها جزيل كرمه، وجعلها من خيار إمائه وخدمه. سلام الله عليكم. ورحمة الله وبركاته. فإنا نحمد إليكم الله، الذي لا إله إلا هو، وهو للحمد أهل، وهو على كل شيء قدير.
ونسأله أن يصلي على خاتم النبيين، وإمام المتقين، محمد عبده ورسوله، صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وسلم تسليمًا. كتابي إليكم عن نعم من الله عظيمة، ومنن كريمة، وآلاء جسيمة نشكر الله عليها، ونسأله المزيد من فضله. ونعم الله كلما جاءت في نمو، وازدياد، وأياديه جلت عن التعداد.
وتعلمون أن مقامنا الساعة في هذه البلاد، إنما هو لأمور ضرورية، متى أهملناها؛ فسد علينا أمر الدين والدنيا.
ولسنا والله مختارين للبعد عنكم، ولو حملتنا الطيور؛ لسرنا إليكم. ولكن الغائب عذره معه، وأنتم لو اطلعتم على باطن الأمور فإنكم - ولله الحمد - ما تختارون الساعة إلا ذلك، ولم نعزم على المقام، والاستيطان شهرًا واحدًا، بل كل يوم نستخير الله لنا ولكم. وادعوا لنا بالخيرة فنسأل الله العظيم أن يخير لنا ولكم وللمسلمين، ما فيه الخيرة، في خير وعافية.
ومع هذا فقد فتح الله من أبواب الخير، والرحمة والهداية، والبركة ما لم يكن يخطر بالبال، ولا يدور في الخيال، ونحن في كل وقت مهمومون بالسفر، مستخيرون الله سبحانه وتعالى. فلا يظن الظان أنا نؤثر على قربكم شيئًا من أمور الدنيا قط. بل ولا نؤثر من أمور الدين ما يكون قربكم أرجح منه. ولكن ثم أمور كبار، نخاف الضرر الخاص والعام من إهمالها. والشاهد يرى ما لا يرى الغائب.
والمطلوب كثرة الدعاء بالخيرة فإن الله يعلم ولا نعلم ويقدر ولا نقدر وهو علام الغيوب. وقد قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: (من سعادة ابن آدم استخارته الله ورضاه بما يقسم الله له ومن شقاوة ابن آدم: ترك استخارته الله وسخطه بما يقسم الله له
والتاجر يكون مسافرًا؛ فيخاف ضياع بعض ماله، فيحتاج أن يقيم؛ حتى يستوفيه، وما نحن فيه أمر يجل عن الوصف ولا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله،
والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته، كثيرًا كثيرًا، وعلى سائر من في البيت، من الكبار، والصغار، وسائر الجيران، والأهل والأصحاب واحدًا واحدًا،
والحمد لله رب العالمين. وصلى الله على محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم تسليمًا.
The letter of Shaykh ul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah to his mother, in which he apologises for his stay in Egypt. A stay he felt was necessary to educate the people:
"In the name of Allah, Most Merciful, Dispenser of Mercy
From Ahmad bin Taymiyyah to my dear and honorable Mother, may Allah bless her amply, and grant her peace and comfort, and make her amongst the best of His servants, Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuh.
We praise Allah, the most worthy of praise. There is no deity worthy of worship but He, and He has Power over all things. We ask Him to bless the Seal of the Prophets and Imaam of the pious, Muhammad His servant and Messenger (Sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam).
Indeed the bounties of Allah come abundantly, and His aid is never ending. We praise Him for it, and ask Him to increase His favor. It will not escape you, my contented mother, the fact that our stay in Egypt is for an important issue. The abandonment of such a task leads to the corruption of our Deen and of our life.
Yet it was not our choice to be far from you. Had birds been able to carry us, we would have come to you. But the absent one has his reason; and had you been able to look deeply into the affairs of the Muslims, you would not choose for me another place to the one I am in now. Nevertheless, I had never intended to reside here permanently. Instead, I pray to Allah to guide you and I to the right choice, and I pray for your well-being. I ask Allah to bless us and the rest of the Muslims, with His goodness and what that goodness encompasses of safety and benefit.
Allah had opened for me His gates of blessings, mercy and guidance in a way I have never conceived of before. Yet I am always considering travel towards you, making the prayers of Istikhaarah. It is inconceivable for me, if given the choice, to favor any of this life's mundane issues or of the lesser obligations of the Deen, to being close to you. Yet there are great issues which l cannot abandon for fear of their general and personal dangers - and the witness sees what the absent does not.
I beseech you to supplicate to Allah profusely. Ask Him to guide us to choose our best paths, for He Knows and we do not, and He is able and we are weak. The Messenger of Allah (Sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:
It is from the happiness of the son of Adam to practice lstikhaarah and be pleased with what Allah had ordained for him. And it is from the misery of the son of Adam to drop tbe Istikhaarah of Allah and be displeased at Allah's decrees.
Indeed, the traveling trader might fear the loss of his money, so he resides at a place until he is able to travel once again. The matter that we are in the middle of is too great to describe, but there is no power or ability but through Allah.
Finally, convey my salaam to the entire household, young and old, and the rest of neighbors, friends and relatives one by one.
Wasalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuh
Praise be to Allah, and may His Blessings and Peace be upon Muhammad, his family and companions".
Footnotes
1. Shaykh Muhammad Aboo Zahrah comments on his book Ibn Taymeeyah: the general danger is the corruption of people. The personal one is that as a Scholar, he has to fulfil his obligation of guiding the people to the right way. There is also another danger which, is that Ibn Taymeeyah came to Egypt whilst accused in his belief, and that he has a right to defend and vindicate himself.
Fufilling convenants
Asalamu aleykum warahmatulahi wabarakatu
Bismillah Alhamdulilah wasalatu wasalamu ala Rasulilah wa ala ahlihi wa ashabihi wabarik wasalim
Allah, the Exalted, says:
"And fulfill (every) covenant. Verily! The covenant will be questioned about. (17:34)
"And fulfill the Covenant of Allah (Bai`ah: pledge for Islam) when you have covenanted.'' (16:91)
"O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations.'' (5:1)
"O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you do not do.'' (61:2,3)
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Three are the signs of a hypocrite: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is trusted, he betrays his trust.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Another narration adds the words: "Even if he observes Saum (fasts), performs Salat (prayer) and claims to be a Muslim.''
Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Four are the qualities which, when found in a person, make him a sheer hypocrite, and one who possesses one of them, possesses one characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it. These are: When he is entrusted with something, he betrays trust; when he speaks, he lies; when he promises, he acts treacherously; and when he argues, he behaves in a very imprudent, insulting manner.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said to me, "When the revenues of Bahrain will arrive, I shall give you such and such and such.'' He passed away before the revenues were received. When they arrive during the caliphate of Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him), he ordered to be announced: "Anyone whom Messenger of Allah (PBUH) promised or owed anything, should come to him.'' I went to him and said: "Messenger of Allah (PBUH) had said to me such and such.'' He took a double handful out of the money and gave it to me. I counted it and found that it was five hundred dirham. Then Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) said to me: "Take twice as much more of that amount.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
This Hadith is suggestive of fulfillment of the deceased pledge by the ascendant, that is, his death will not invalidate it. Rather, the responsibility of fulfilling his pledge devolves upon his inheritors. Similarly, a new ruler is under obligation to carry out the commitment made by his predecessor on the government level.
please Pass it on make effort for Deen to spread
May Allah (swt) give us the best understanding of Deen and make us those who submit fully to Allah swt Allahuma ameen Asalamu aleykum warahmatulahi ta'ala wabarakatu
Bismillah Alhamdulilah wasalatu wasalamu ala Rasulilah wa ala ahlihi wa ashabihi wabarik wasalim
Allah, the Exalted, says:
"And fulfill (every) covenant. Verily! The covenant will be questioned about. (17:34)
"And fulfill the Covenant of Allah (Bai`ah: pledge for Islam) when you have covenanted.'' (16:91)
"O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations.'' (5:1)
"O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you do not do.'' (61:2,3)
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Three are the signs of a hypocrite: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is trusted, he betrays his trust.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Another narration adds the words: "Even if he observes Saum (fasts), performs Salat (prayer) and claims to be a Muslim.''
Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Four are the qualities which, when found in a person, make him a sheer hypocrite, and one who possesses one of them, possesses one characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it. These are: When he is entrusted with something, he betrays trust; when he speaks, he lies; when he promises, he acts treacherously; and when he argues, he behaves in a very imprudent, insulting manner.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said to me, "When the revenues of Bahrain will arrive, I shall give you such and such and such.'' He passed away before the revenues were received. When they arrive during the caliphate of Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him), he ordered to be announced: "Anyone whom Messenger of Allah (PBUH) promised or owed anything, should come to him.'' I went to him and said: "Messenger of Allah (PBUH) had said to me such and such.'' He took a double handful out of the money and gave it to me. I counted it and found that it was five hundred dirham. Then Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) said to me: "Take twice as much more of that amount.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
This Hadith is suggestive of fulfillment of the deceased pledge by the ascendant, that is, his death will not invalidate it. Rather, the responsibility of fulfilling his pledge devolves upon his inheritors. Similarly, a new ruler is under obligation to carry out the commitment made by his predecessor on the government level.
please Pass it on make effort for Deen to spread
May Allah (swt) give us the best understanding of Deen and make us those who submit fully to Allah swt Allahuma ameen Asalamu aleykum warahmatulahi ta'ala wabarakatu
Monday, 10 May 2010
The Disease of Desires by ibn Taymiyyah
The Disease of Desires By Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah
"Extracted from Diseases of the Hearts "
Miserliness and jealousy are sicknesses that lead to the soul hating that which would benefit it, and its loving that which would harm it. This is why jealousy was mention alongside hatred and resentment in the preceeding ahaadeeth. As for the sickness of desire and passionate love then this is the soul loving that which would harm it and coupled with this is its hatred of that which would benefit it.Passionate love is a psychological sickness, and when its effects become noticable on the body, it becomes a sickness that afflicts the mind also. Either by afflicting the mind by the likes of melancholy, or afflicting the body through weakness and emaciation. But the purpose here is to discuss its affect on the heart, for passionate love is the foundation that makes the soul covet that which would harm it, similar to the one weak of body who covets that which harms it, and if he is not satiated by that then he is grieved, and if he is satiated then his sickness increases. The same applies to the heart afflicted with this love, for it is harmed by its connection to the loved, either by seeing, touching, hearing, or even thinking about it. And if he were to curb the love then the heart is hurt and grieved by this, and if he gives it to the desire then the sickness becomes stronger and becomes a means trough which the grievance is increased.In the Hadeeth there occurs, " Indeed Allah shelters His believing servant from the world just as one of you shelter your sick ones from food and drink [ that would harm them]"In the hadeeth concerning the saving of Moosa reported by Wahbibn Munabbih [ is a noble taabi ee, this hadeeth is reported from him but is not authentic.] which is recorded by Imaam Ahmad in Zuhd " Allah says indeed I drive away my friends from the delights of this world and its opulence and comfort just ask the compassionate shepherd drives away his camel from the dangerous crazing lands. And Indeed I make them avoid its tranquility and livelihood, just ask the compassionate shepherd makes his camel to avoid the resting places wherein it would be easy pray. This not because I consider them to be insignificant, but so that they may complete their portion of my kindness in Safety and abundance, the delights of the world will not attract him and neither would desires overcome him."Therefore the only cure for the sick lies in his removing the sickness by removing the blameworthy love from his heart.People are divided into two opinions concerning passionate love: one group says that it falls into the category of intentions and wishes, this being the famous opinion. Another group says that it falls into the category of imagination and fantasies and that it is corruption of the imagination since it cause one to depict the one who is loved in other than his true reality. This group went on to say: "And this is why Allah has not been described with passionate love [shirk] and neither that he passionately love [ya shirk] because He is far removed from this, and one cannot be praised who has there corrupt thoughts.."As for the first group, then from them are those who said: He is described with passionate love [shirk] because it is a complete and perfect love and Allah Loves [yuhib]." And it is reported in the narration of Abdul Wahid bin Zayd that He said, "The servant will always continue to draw close to me, loving Me and I loving him {a shiquhoo]." This is the saying of some of the Soofis but majority do not apply this word to Allah, because passionate love is a love exceeding the proper bounds, as for the Love of Allah then it has no end and cannot exceed the proper bounds. Passionate love is to be considered blameworthy without any exceptions, it is not to be praised when it is directed toward the Creator or created because it is a love that exceeds the proper bounds.This is also true because the word 'passionate love' is only employed with regards to a man loving a woman or child [ or vice versa]. it is not employed in things such as the love of one's family, property or status, just as it not employed with regards to the love of the Prophets and the righteous. Commonly, you will find this word being mentioned alongside a forbidden action, such as loving the woman who is not lawful for him, or loving a child joined with the unlawful glance and touch and other such unlawful actions.And for the love of a man for his wife or slave girl which leads him out of the folds of justice such that he does unlawful things for her and leave what is obligatory- as commonly happens- even to the extent that he may oppress his son born of his old wife due to this love of his new wife, or to the extent that he will do things to keep her happy that would harm his religion and worldly life. For example his singling her out for inheritance that she does not deserve, or that he gives her family authority and property that exceeds the limits set by Allah, or he goes to excess in spending on her, or he makes unlawful things possible for her which is harm his religion and worldly life. This passionate love is forbidden with regards for one who has passionate love for someone who is unlawful or with regards to two men. For this contains a corruption that extent of which none can assess except the lord of the servants; it is a sickness that corrupts the religion and objectives of the one who possesses it, then it corrupts his intelligence and then his body. Allah the mos High, says, " Then do not be soft in speech, lest he is whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in a honorable manner." Soorah al ahzaab :32 There are some whose hearts contain the disease of desire and whose perceptions are only skin deep. When the object of the desire submits, the sickness is satiated, and this satiation strengthens the desire and pursuit of the object and hence strengthens the sickness. This is a contrast to the one whose objective is not met, for this failure results is removing the satiation that would strengthen the sickness and there by the desire is weakened as is the love. This is because the person definitely intends that there be action accompanying his desire, for otherwise all his desire would be is just whispering of the soul, unless there is some speech or looking accompany this.As for the one who is afflicted with this passionate love but holds back and is patient, then indeed Allah will reward him for his taqwaa as occurs in the hadeeth, " that the one who passionately love someone yet holds back, conceals this and is patient, then dies upon this, will be a martyr." [ A da eef hadeeth, ] This hadeeth is known to be the report of Yahya al Qataat from Mujaahid from Ibn Abbass from the Prophet sallahu wa alyhe wa sallam but it is problematic and such a hadeeth is not to be depended upon.But it is known from the evidences of the Shareeah that if one were to hold back from performing that which is unlawful, be it looking, speaking or acting, and conceals this and does not articulate it so as not to fall into that which is prohibited and he is patient in his obedience to Allah and keep away form disobedience to Allah, despite the pain that his hearts feels due to this passionate love, [similar to the case of the one who is patient thought a calamity, then indeed this person would gain the same rewards as those who have feared Allah and been Patient.
" Verily, he who fears Allah and is patient, then surely Allah makes not the reward of the doers of good to be lost." Surah Yusuf :90
"Extracted from Diseases of the Hearts "
Miserliness and jealousy are sicknesses that lead to the soul hating that which would benefit it, and its loving that which would harm it. This is why jealousy was mention alongside hatred and resentment in the preceeding ahaadeeth. As for the sickness of desire and passionate love then this is the soul loving that which would harm it and coupled with this is its hatred of that which would benefit it.Passionate love is a psychological sickness, and when its effects become noticable on the body, it becomes a sickness that afflicts the mind also. Either by afflicting the mind by the likes of melancholy, or afflicting the body through weakness and emaciation. But the purpose here is to discuss its affect on the heart, for passionate love is the foundation that makes the soul covet that which would harm it, similar to the one weak of body who covets that which harms it, and if he is not satiated by that then he is grieved, and if he is satiated then his sickness increases. The same applies to the heart afflicted with this love, for it is harmed by its connection to the loved, either by seeing, touching, hearing, or even thinking about it. And if he were to curb the love then the heart is hurt and grieved by this, and if he gives it to the desire then the sickness becomes stronger and becomes a means trough which the grievance is increased.In the Hadeeth there occurs, " Indeed Allah shelters His believing servant from the world just as one of you shelter your sick ones from food and drink [ that would harm them]"In the hadeeth concerning the saving of Moosa reported by Wahbibn Munabbih [ is a noble taabi ee, this hadeeth is reported from him but is not authentic.] which is recorded by Imaam Ahmad in Zuhd " Allah says indeed I drive away my friends from the delights of this world and its opulence and comfort just ask the compassionate shepherd drives away his camel from the dangerous crazing lands. And Indeed I make them avoid its tranquility and livelihood, just ask the compassionate shepherd makes his camel to avoid the resting places wherein it would be easy pray. This not because I consider them to be insignificant, but so that they may complete their portion of my kindness in Safety and abundance, the delights of the world will not attract him and neither would desires overcome him."Therefore the only cure for the sick lies in his removing the sickness by removing the blameworthy love from his heart.People are divided into two opinions concerning passionate love: one group says that it falls into the category of intentions and wishes, this being the famous opinion. Another group says that it falls into the category of imagination and fantasies and that it is corruption of the imagination since it cause one to depict the one who is loved in other than his true reality. This group went on to say: "And this is why Allah has not been described with passionate love [shirk] and neither that he passionately love [ya shirk] because He is far removed from this, and one cannot be praised who has there corrupt thoughts.."As for the first group, then from them are those who said: He is described with passionate love [shirk] because it is a complete and perfect love and Allah Loves [yuhib]." And it is reported in the narration of Abdul Wahid bin Zayd that He said, "The servant will always continue to draw close to me, loving Me and I loving him {a shiquhoo]." This is the saying of some of the Soofis but majority do not apply this word to Allah, because passionate love is a love exceeding the proper bounds, as for the Love of Allah then it has no end and cannot exceed the proper bounds. Passionate love is to be considered blameworthy without any exceptions, it is not to be praised when it is directed toward the Creator or created because it is a love that exceeds the proper bounds.This is also true because the word 'passionate love' is only employed with regards to a man loving a woman or child [ or vice versa]. it is not employed in things such as the love of one's family, property or status, just as it not employed with regards to the love of the Prophets and the righteous. Commonly, you will find this word being mentioned alongside a forbidden action, such as loving the woman who is not lawful for him, or loving a child joined with the unlawful glance and touch and other such unlawful actions.And for the love of a man for his wife or slave girl which leads him out of the folds of justice such that he does unlawful things for her and leave what is obligatory- as commonly happens- even to the extent that he may oppress his son born of his old wife due to this love of his new wife, or to the extent that he will do things to keep her happy that would harm his religion and worldly life. For example his singling her out for inheritance that she does not deserve, or that he gives her family authority and property that exceeds the limits set by Allah, or he goes to excess in spending on her, or he makes unlawful things possible for her which is harm his religion and worldly life. This passionate love is forbidden with regards for one who has passionate love for someone who is unlawful or with regards to two men. For this contains a corruption that extent of which none can assess except the lord of the servants; it is a sickness that corrupts the religion and objectives of the one who possesses it, then it corrupts his intelligence and then his body. Allah the mos High, says, " Then do not be soft in speech, lest he is whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in a honorable manner." Soorah al ahzaab :32 There are some whose hearts contain the disease of desire and whose perceptions are only skin deep. When the object of the desire submits, the sickness is satiated, and this satiation strengthens the desire and pursuit of the object and hence strengthens the sickness. This is a contrast to the one whose objective is not met, for this failure results is removing the satiation that would strengthen the sickness and there by the desire is weakened as is the love. This is because the person definitely intends that there be action accompanying his desire, for otherwise all his desire would be is just whispering of the soul, unless there is some speech or looking accompany this.As for the one who is afflicted with this passionate love but holds back and is patient, then indeed Allah will reward him for his taqwaa as occurs in the hadeeth, " that the one who passionately love someone yet holds back, conceals this and is patient, then dies upon this, will be a martyr." [ A da eef hadeeth, ] This hadeeth is known to be the report of Yahya al Qataat from Mujaahid from Ibn Abbass from the Prophet sallahu wa alyhe wa sallam but it is problematic and such a hadeeth is not to be depended upon.But it is known from the evidences of the Shareeah that if one were to hold back from performing that which is unlawful, be it looking, speaking or acting, and conceals this and does not articulate it so as not to fall into that which is prohibited and he is patient in his obedience to Allah and keep away form disobedience to Allah, despite the pain that his hearts feels due to this passionate love, [similar to the case of the one who is patient thought a calamity, then indeed this person would gain the same rewards as those who have feared Allah and been Patient.
" Verily, he who fears Allah and is patient, then surely Allah makes not the reward of the doers of good to be lost." Surah Yusuf :90
The Etiquette of Women walking in the Street
The Etiquette of Women walking in the StreetAllah's saying: (And let them not stamp their feet...) During Jahiliyyah, when women walked in the street wearing anklets and no one could hear them, they would stamp their feet so that men could hear their anklets ringing. Allah forbade the believing women to do this. By the same token, if there is any other kind of adornment that is hidden, women are forbidden to make any movements that would reveal what is hidden, because Allah says: (And let them not stamp their feet...) to the end of it. From that, women are also prohibited from wearing scent and perfume when they are going outside the home, lest men should smell their perfume. Abu `Isa At-Tirmidhi recorded that Abu Musa, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Prophet saw said: (Every eye commits fornication and adultery, and when a woman puts on perfume and passes through a gathering, she is such and such) -- meaning an adulteress. He said, "And there is a similar report from Abu Hurayrah, and this is Hasan Sahih.'' It was also recorded by Abu Dawud and An-Nasa'i. By the same token, women are also forbidden to walk in the middle of the street, because of what this involves of wanton display. Abu Dawud recorded that Abu Usayd Al-Ansari said that he heard the Messenger of Allah , as he was coming out of the Masjid and men and women were mixing in the street, telling the women: (Keep back, for you have no right to walk in the middle of the street. You should keep to the sides of the road.) The women used to cling to the walls so much that their clothes would catch on the walls. (And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.) means, practice what you are commanded in these beautiful manners and praiseworthy characteristics, and give up the evil ways of the people of Jahiliyyah, for the greatest success is to be found in doing what Allah and His Messenger command and avoiding what He forbids. And Allah is the source of strength. (32. And marry those among you who are single (Al-Ayama) and the pious of your servants and maidservants. If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His bounty. And Allah is All- Sufficent, All-Knowing.)/(33. And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty. And such of your servants as seek a writing (of emancipation), give them such writing, if you find that there is good and honesty in them. And give them something (yourselves) out of the wealth of Allah which He has bestowed upon you. And force not your slave-girls to prostitution, if they desire chastity, in order that you may make a gain in the goods of this worldly life. But if anyone compels them, then after such compulsion, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.) (34. And indeed We have sent down for you Ayat that make things plain, and the example of those who passed away before you, and an admonition for those who have Taqwa.)
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