The deception of women

The deception of women

This morning I was reading Saydul-Khaatir (basically a book that he compiled regarding random beneficial thoughts and words of wisdom) by Ibn Al-Jawzee and he mentioned therein in the aforementioned chapter title some points that I found to very profound, hence I decided to go ahead and translate it for the benefit of everyone. He said:The greatest physical pleasure (i.e. as it realtes to the five senses) is that of women. For a man can look at a woman in her dress and imagine that she is better than his wife. Or all he thinks about is pretty women and he does not look pass their physical beauty, thus he makes great effort to marry or get a slave girl. But once he gets what he wanted, he cannot help but to focus on her faults which he never thought about before. Hence, he easily becomes bored and he looks for another.

But he does not know that he might get the outward, physical aspect that he was chasing after, however with her comes with a lot of trials and tribulation.

From amongst them is that his second wife has no deen, intelligence, affection, or child rearing capabilities, hence he looses more than he gains.

And this is why so many people fall into zinaa; because they sit with a woman in a situation whereby her faults are hidden from them and all they see is her beauty, so they enjoy that hour, then they move on to another.

A person of intelligence should know that there is no way that he can get all that he desires, "Though you would not accept it save if you close your eyes and tolerate therein." Al-Baqarah: 267

And there is no greater fault of the women of this world except His statement,

"And they shall have therein purified mates or wives." Al-Baqarah: 25